Upcoming Events: next 12 months


Any I missed?  Fixes needed?
Write me at  alan7388 (at) gmail.com
—Alan M.,  Polyamory in the News


As the pandemic continues, I'm
updating these listings as I get news.
--Alan
September 22 – 26, 2021
Gut Frohberg, Germany

This is happening in person. Limited to 100 participants, with strict covid protocols. All covid rules for Saxony will be enforced. Translated: "The purpose of this meeting is evaluating the establishment of a polyamorous corporation [for?] the exchange of knowledge and experiences among polyamorous people and networking. The meeting is self-organizing [unconference]. Over age 18 only." German is the working language. (Also see Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.)


● Non-Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies Conference
September 24 – 26, 2021
ONLINE

The global, biennial academic CNM conference is happening again — this time online. The international organizing committee says it "is proud to now present the full programme for the electronic NMCI 2021, which will be streamed for free on our Facebook page (no login or registration needed), and also accessible via Zoom (registration through Eventbrite) for those wanting a more direct form of participation." Program and abstracts. "All in all, this is but the prelude to what we expect will be an amazing event in Chile in 2022!"

From previous descriptions: "Traditional concepts and practices regarding marriage, family, sexuality, and intimacy have been changing rapidly in recent decades. There have been radical revisions of thinking and practice not only related to sexuality but also involving gender roles, single-parenthood, family structures, contraception, abortion, and divorce.... The rise in critical discourses regarding normative sexualities and intimacies calls into question the traditional paradigm of lifestyles that have been at the core of the sex-gender system, as well as hetero-mono-normative institutions and practices in general. Our goal is community-building within and beyond academia in all its fields and disciplines, challenging traditional models of the hegemonic Global North system of knowledge production." The working language has been English.


October 15 – 19, 2021
Steamboat Springs, CO
Full vaccination required

This is the second CPW happening in 2021; the first was July 23–27. CPW has run since 2016, skipping 2020 during the pandemic. 

"Colorado Poly Weekend is a long weekend retreat for polyamorous people and those in poly relationships to hang out together in a poly-normative, accepting environment. The weekend goes from Friday afternoon to Monday or Tuesday morning and is held each summer and/or fall in the beautiful Rocky Mountains in Steamboat Springs, Colorado. Relax, make new friends, and enjoy the beauty of the Rockies!

"We have a strict Covid-19 policy: Attendees must show proof of having received their final vaccine inoculation for Covid-19 at least two weeks before the event starts. For individuals who have medical conditions that make getting a Covid-19 vaccine impossible, please contact the event organizer before registering to arrange an acceptable isolation, testing, and verification protocol."


October 2021? Dates to be set.
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV


This is a smaller, more intimate version of New Culture Summer Camp held in July at the Abrams Creek Retreat Center in the mountains of West Virginia (see July here for description). These events draw about 70% polyfolks; the focus is on building practices of transparency, self-understanding, communication skills, and intimacy to create radically better relationships of any type. The aim to build, over several days, an enduring network of like-minded people who don't necessarily fall out of touch as happens after most events. "The point is building tribe," says organizer Michael Rios.

I've gone to the larger New Culture Summer Camp for the last eight years and can't recommend New Culture events highly enough. From the website: “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.... Spend up to 5 days in a rustic woods-and-water setting, hang out around a bonfire, enjoy a song circle, cuddle up at a snuggle party, learn to take your relationships to the next level, and build connections with others that last all year long!”

Explains Michael, "We are exploring the questions: What does it mean to be there for each other? What would it take to be solidly present in each others’ lives, responding flexibly and with love to the needs that emerge? What might we do right now to be there for each other? What role does commitment play? The deep truth is that each person is fundamentally alone. Yet at the same time, there is beauty and skillfulness in interdependence.... And beyond merely meeting needs, we can find delight in co-creation, and in the many ways we can support each other in greater joy. At this community journey, we will open these explorations in a field of love, curiosity, and compassion." Video. Also, a camper's video.


November 20 – 21, 2021
ONLINE

"PolyCon Canada will once again be happening online! This year we will be running the event as an unconference (meaning that participants volunteer session ideas and everyone votes on which sessions they want!), with two or three carefully selected keynote speakers. Our conference committee is excited to bring you a dynamic, inclusive, and accessible event, including ASL interpretation — if you have specific access needs, please let us know."

PolyCon Canada is a project of the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association (CPAA). The 2020 event was scheduled to gather in Edmonton until Covid hit. Instead it went online. See the 2020 schedule and program updates including speakers.


November 2628, 2021
ONLINE from Calgary, Alberta

Writes organizer Pedrom Nasiri from the University of Calgary, "The folx at PolyamQ: Calgary’s Polyamorous and Queer Community have announced that they’re running the 3rd annual Nonmonogamous Families and Intimacies Conference online via Zoom, November 26-28."

From the original 2020 description: "PolyamQ is a group of scholars, artists, activists, and community members who have a particular interest in the teaching and study of non-monogamy, kinship, sexuality, gender diversity. PolyamQ aims to provide the opportunity to connect to broader research, artistic, and activist communities, and to mentor, support, and foster each other in and through our works. This year, PolyamQ’s Conference on Non-Traditional Families & Intimacies focuses on the concept of Narrative Power. This focus on Narrative Power aims to examine how everyday intimacies are shaped, influenced, and coerced by the storied actions of others. For example, presenters may wish to explore how stories about families, child-rearing, division of labour and care-work, living arrangements, or the differences in intimacies between ‘friends’ and ‘family’ are told. For inquiries, please contact the conference organizer Pedrom Nasiri at pnasiri (at) ucalgary (dot) ca ".


● Outside The Box: Pittsburgh Polyamory Conference
Fall 2021? Watch the link for news.
Pittsburgh, PA


Laszlo Productions, a Pittsburgh-based GLBTQIA events producer, put on this new one-day conference in 2019. Organizer Lyndsey Sickler posts "We had a great time! Looking forward to planning the 2020 conference!" But that didn't happen in the first year of covid. We await news for 2021.

From the 2019 announcement: "We are excited to be putting together Pittsburgh's First Poly Conference. Outside the Box will take place at Persad Center.... The conference is FREE (donations gladly accepted)." The Persad Center is an LGBTQ human services, activist, and community center. The program ran from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Here were the 2019 sessions.


● PolyDallas Millennium
Late 2021? Check for any updates.
Dallas, TX

For the 2020 event, organizer Ruby Johnson wrote, "PDM is a symposium that brings queer, trans, and nonbinary POC who are nonmonogamous together to educate one another, celebrate our love, and liberate our voices in a space that is affirming, safe, and accessible."

Previously held in a big Dallas hotel, PDM went online for November 2020 during covid. From the description then: "We are bringing that same mission, vision, and passion to a virtual space November 6-8, 2020. Our theme celebrates the abundance, liberation, and unlimited possibilities of love.

"When we are Open to Love, we are free to experience intimacy without the constraints of others' prejudice, oppression, and opinions of who and how we love. Being Open to Love does not embolden us to a preconceived notion of an ideal “look and feel” of true love. We are no longer shackled to a one-size-fits-all expression and identity of love.

"This is a time of a global uprising. This is a time for transformational love."

Facebook page.  CEU credits were available for therapists and other professionals.

Tikva Wolf's plug for the 2020 online conference:


This was my description for the original live event:
This large hotel conference centers people of color and the black experience. "This does not exclude anyone else! We love bountifully," writes organizer Ruby Johnson. "Our symposium provides a sex-positive safe space for those seeking knowledge about ethical nonmonogamy, who have questions about ethical nonomogamy, or are experienced with ethical nonmongamy. We bring to the forefront people of color who are queer, trans, and nonbinary.  This is space for all lovestyles. We leave all that stops us from loving fully and freely at the front door."


● Beyond The Love

Late 2021? Get newsletter for 
updates.
Columbus, Ohio

In 2019 this large weekend conference, under new management, moved from its hotel to a smaller venue due to construction at the hotel. In 2020 it was cancelled due to covid. We await news for 2021; sign up to get info.

Here were the 2019 presentersclasses and schedule. The new diversity and inclusiveness policy. The 2019 conference sold out at 250 attendees. Here's Kitty Chambliss's writeup of her experiences at the 2018 BTL.



2022


● Love Is Love (Germany)
January 27 
– 31, 2022
Mühlhausen, Germany

The German organizations PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V. (Polyamory.de), and Bisexuelles Netzwerk e.V. (BiNe.net) plan this new conference in hopes that the region will have emerged from the pandemic disruptions; check links for updates. The working language is German.

PolyAmores Netzwerk normally runs transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. The organizers say the gatherings are "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities." (Also, see the Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.)


● Poly Living East
February 2022 (dates to be announced) 
Philadelphia, PA


Banner from 2020

Poly Living is put on each year by the Loving More nonprofit group, in a fine large hotel near the Philadelphia airport and a rail stop. This will be Poly Living's 16th year (the 14th under Loving More's management). It's been drawing a lively, increasingly diverse crowd of about 200 interesting people for talks, workshops, socializing, sharing, party and fun. It didn't happen in 2021 because of Covid. Here were the 2020 sessions and presenters. Here's my writeup of the first Poly Living I attended (2006). In 2012 I gave the keynote speech. I'll be back again this time. Hope to meet you there!

Loving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the original poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.


February 2022; dates to be set
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV



Indigo Dawn, Dawson Driver, Michael Rios and their friends and partners in Network for a New Culture organize several poly and poly-friendly workshop retreats around the year at their Abrams Creek Campground and Conference Center in the mountains of West Virginia. Their goal is to build, over several days, an enduring network of sympathetic people from all over who won't necessarily fall out of touch as happens after many events. “The point is building tribe,” says Michael.

I went to Winter Poly Wonderland in 2018 and 2020 and have attended the (largely poly) Network for a New Culture Summer Camp East for many years. New Culture's practices for community creation and interpersonal-skills development, from ZEGG Forum to relationship workshops, are ideal for this ambitious goal. “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.” In 2020 Winter Poly Wonderland sold out with 45 of us. It skipped 2021 because of Covid.


● Winter Polytreffen (Germany)
Feb. 25 
– Mar. 1, 2022
Rommerz, Germany

The German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.de, runs transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. According to the organizers, the gatherings serve as "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical know-how. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self organized by the participants. Minimum age 18. 'Grand Poly Meetings' draw 40 to 150 people for up to 70 workshops, talks and other events, depending on the format. 'Small' meetings gathers about 40." In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced. (Also see Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.)


Early spring 2022; dates to be decided
Tucson, Arizona

SW Love Fest was the largest and fastest-growing polycon before covid hit. In 2021 it was held online.

Description of the live convention from previous years: The first Southwest Love Fest in 2018 sold out with over 225 attendees, and the second in 2019 had over 400. (The only polyamory/CNM convention to beat that record was the one-time OpenSF in SanFrancisco in 2012, with 500.) I was at SW Love Fest in 2018 and found the vibe exuberant and excited, the attendees (80% from Arizona) great-hearted and significantly diverse, and the presenters I saw were mostly excellent. The Saturday-night social events included, simultaneously, a treasure hunt, an EDM dance party with costuming available, and a cuddle puddle in a big pop-up gazebo under the stars. There was a CEU track for psychology professionals to earn continuing-education credits. Child care was offered onsite both years.

Conference organizers Kate Kincaid and Sara Bachmann-Williams recruited many volunteers from the Tucson and Phoenix poly and kink communities, and the success of the event seems to have come largely from word of mouth. Heavy early involvement by the local community seems to make the difference for the success of a polycon.

Kate says that she and Sara will help advise anyone who wants to start a hotel polycon in their own city; write to southwestlovefest AT gmail.com.


● Rocky Mountain Poly Living
Spring 2022; dates to be decided
Denver, CO
 

Banner from 2020

Rocky Mountain Poly Living is run by Loving More (based in Colorado), which has put on Poly Living East in Philadelphia every February for 14 years (not counting cancellations during covid time). As in Philly: Talks, workshops, socializing, sharing, dance party, warmth, and fun. The Denver attendance in 2019 was 125; 2020 and 2021 were cancelled for covid. Here were the Denver 2019 talks/workshops and their presenters. In 2016 I gave the keynote speechLoving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the original poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.


● RelateCon Boise
Spring 2022; dates to be announced
Boise, Idaho
Paid registrations for the covid-cancelled 2020 conference will be honored for the 2022 conference.

"RelateCon provides a unique and supportive gathering place for polyamorous people to connect as a community through educational workshops, social spaces, and opportunities for networking. The core value of this conference is to empower healthy relationships across a myriad of configurations."

The first RelateCon in 2017 drew about 120 people, impressive for a first event, and in 2018 it nearly sold out. Here were the 2019 presentersFacebook page. Twitter. Not held in 2020 or 2021 because of covid. Wrote organizer Ginger Polynirvana in 2017, "We are able to offer a simultaneous Professional track at RelateCon, which will offer CEUs to a wide variety of disciplines such as lawyers, social workers, counselors, and teachers." Here's Kitty Chambliss's enthusiastic writeup of the 2017 event. Here's the local alternative weekly paper's writeup that year.

The organizers also planned to start a RelateCon in Atlanta, but these conferences were cancelled in 2020 and 2021 amid covid.



● Polytopia
Spring 2022; dates to be decided
Portland, Oregon


Description for 2020 before it was cancelled due to covid: Sex-Positive Portland will host the city's sixth annual polyamory and open relationship symposium and celebration. "Join us for three days of radical love, relationships and sustainability." Slogan: "Revolution through radical loving."

"Polytopia offers workshops for those who are relatively new to navigating the joys and pitfalls of loving more and workshops for those who are already well-experienced with polyamory who are looking for ways to better live the life they love. Workshops will be in a variety of formats ranging from lecture and discussion to experiential and embodied activities in dyads, triads and more. We will also offer lunchtime discussion panels and affinity groups to choose from each day to deepen our knowledge and connections with each other." Facebook page.



Spring 2022; dates to be announced
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV

New Culture Spring Camp for 2020 was to be "Creativity Camp" until cancelled by Covid. That may or may not be the theme for 2022.

New Culture events draw about 70% polyfolks, however the theme for this one will be artistic expression. From the description for 2020: "Along with New Culture community and intimacy-building practices, like connection games, Going Deeper, and daily community Forums, mornings will feature workshops that help us find our creative voice and vision; every afternoon we’ll break into creativity focus groups (music, drawing, dance, singing, poetry, ritual, innovation, etc.); evenings and the last day will have space for sharing our creations. All in a supportive community, with plenty of time for cuddles (if you want them), conversations, and connections!"


● International OpenCon Catalonia
Late spring 2022; dates to be set
Galliners, Catalonia, Spain

After skipping 2020 and 2021 in the pandemic, the organizers say they're definitely on for 2022.

This will be OpenCon Catalonia's ninth year. Originally modeled on the UK OpenCon, it runs by a self-generated unconference program. From previous years: "An opportunity to get together in a friendly environment and share our experiences, our questions, the lessons we’ve learned, and the joys we’ve experienced in this new territory of polyamory/non-monogamy/open relationships. The basic plan is to combine workshops with plenty of opportunities for relaxing and socialising. Check the what will happen page for details on the programme as it develops." 
The working language is English. Over 18 only. Sells out far in advance. 
Read about past years.


● Summer Polytreffen (Germany)
June 14
19, 2022
Rittergut Lützensömmern, Germany

The German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.deruns transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. The organizers say the gatherings are "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self organized by the participants." Minimum age 18. In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced. (Also see Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.)


● Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference
Status uncertain for 2022
Chicago, IL

This one-day event began in 2017 with help from the Relationship Equality Foundation and has continued except for 2020 and 2021, when it was cancelled for the pandemic. No word yet on 2022. From past years: "Our goal is to help bring the Chicago non-monogamy community together across all the lines that divide us — age, gender, race, class, location, ability, configuration, label, and all of the other categories which house us." Facebook page. The 2019 schedule, sessions and presenters. Contact: chinonmonocon (at) gmail.com


● OpenCon València
Dates to be announced, 2022
Alborache, València, Spain


"Un esdeveniment per a compartir experiències sobre les relacions afectives ètiques no normatives: Poliamor, Anarquia Relacional, Xarxes Afectives, etc. Un cap de setmana de debats, tallers i activitats lúdiques que ens brindaran l'oportunitat de conèixer gent amb idees i actituds obertes entorn a les relacions afectives. Un espai on compartir experiències i inquietuds sobre models de vincles entre les persones, des d'una perspectiva feminista, solidària i basada en el respecte. El contingut de l'OpenCon el proporcionen les persones assistents, per la qual cosa cada convocatòria és una sorpresa i una experiència única." Poliamor Valencia Facebook page.



● Black Poly Pride

Summer 2022? Dates to be announced. Other events continue online.
Washington, DC?

If the 2022 conference happens, it will be the second for this event and its first in DC. From the 2020 description before pandemic cancellation: "Co-founders @calicoeyez215 and @therealchanee are already hard at work with the help of the leaders of the black polyamorous community on the ground in D.C. and Nation wide! ... The theme for #blackpolypride2020, 'Black Polyamory: A Revolutionary Act,' will honor our past and highlight the many ways black polyamory enriches the ways in which we love, live and shape our futures." Facebook page.



Summer 2022; dates to be announced. 
near Eganville, Ontario

After running for several years at a well-equipped lakeside campground, Polywood Camp was cancelled for covid in 2020, then a version was held online in 2021. Check website or Facebook for 2022 news. 




About previous years' campouts: "A kid-friendly poly camping weekend, at Raven’s Knoll Campground. Join us at Polywood this year to laugh, learn, and community build under the stars. Meet fellow like-minded poly people around the large communal bonfire; take part in various relationship building and strengthening discussions; share your poly knowledge and experiences over wine and cheese." Swimming, showerhouse, food truck. Camper hookups available, dogs welcome. "We have limited scholarship funds available; email us at polywood.camping@gmail.com for more information."


● Colorado Poly Weekend retreat  July 
July
 2022; dates to be announced.
Steamboat Springs, CO

This small campout has run since 2016, skipping 2020 during the pandemic. It was held in 2021 with full vaccination required, "Colorado Poly Weekend is a long weekend retreat for polyamorous people and those in poly relationships to hang out together in a poly-normative, accepting environment. The weekend goes from Friday afternoon to Monday or Tuesday morning and is held each summer and/or fall in the beautiful Rocky Mountains in Steamboat Springs, Colorado. Relax, make new friends, and enjoy the beauty of the Rockies!

A second Colorado Poly Weekend will also likely be held in October, as in 2021.


● Rocky Mountain Polyamory Family Campout

July 2022; dates to be decided.
near Aspen, Colorado

Robyn Trask and Jesus Garcia of Loving More have held this informal family-friendly campout nearly every year for more than 15 years. Of late about 30 people usually attend. Robyn writes, "Join us for a weekend of hiking, playing, and just hanging out with other poly families from the Rocky Mountain Region. This is the one thing each year where the kids get to join in. My kids love the campouts as much if not more than I do. It is wonderful to enjoy the beauty of the Colorado Mountains and spend time with wonderful poly people."


● Polyamory Unconference
Summer 2022? Sign up at site for announcements.
Columbus, Ohio


A one-day event. "Polyamory Unconference is an event that is run by you, the participants! Attendees get to propose, vote on, and run sessions themselves. You’ll set the agenda and create an environment of innovation and productive discussion! Request topics and workshops on issues that you want to hear about, or present something — a facilitated discussion, a workshop on a specific skill, or a lecture on a topic you are familiar with. Advantages of the unconference format include: a focus on topics that are relevant to the attendees, an opportunity for teamwork development, flexibility of schedule, and an emphasis on contributions from every participant. The relationships built during an unconference often continue well past the event."


Lower Manhattan, NY
July 810, 2022

Solo poly symbol
 
This roving conference, "for solo polyamorous people and those who love them," missed 2020 during covid and ran online in 2021. Now it's back. "Are you new to polyamory and exploring the many possible configurations, or been practicing honest non-monogamy for decades? Regardless of where you are on the experience spectrum, you’ll appreciate the support, community, camaraderie, hospitality, and awesome keynote speakers we’re assembling for your enjoyment, learning, and growth.

"Building on 2017's inaugural worldwide event in Vancouver BC, we've been to Seattle, San Francisco, and now we're coming to the east coast! This is your opportunity to meet other solo non-monogamous people and share real life experiences! Taking place at Energi Life [near Union Square Park], this conference includes social events, keynote speeches and unconference-style sessions in which participants offer their own discussions, workshops and skills sharing. After registering, please let us know if you already have such a session in mind, as this will help us to organize and promote the conference." Accomodations and evening meals not provided. A ride- and room-sharing board is planned. In past years SoPoCo sold out in advance.


July 2022; dates to be announced. 
Abrams Creek Retreat and Conference Center, Mount Storm, WV

I've attended this interesting, powerful, ten-day event for many years. Network for a New Culture explores building intimate sustainable community through practices of curiosity, transparency, self-exploration, and self-responsibility. The days are structured around ZEGG Forum, various self-improvement and human-potential presenters visiting to offer their stuff, and sharing life, work, and play in the West Virginia mountain woods.

“While not exclusively a poly event,” says co-founder Michael Rios, “Summer Camp East is about 70% polyfolk, and 100% poly-friendly.” Here are my impressions from my first year. Here's a bit more from my fourth (last two paragraphs).

About 60 to 80 people usually attend. Vegetarian group meals; cabins and campsites in the woods (no vehicle hookups); bathhouse with sinks and hot showers. Conditions are mostly rustic, but s
ome indoor accommodations are available onsite (priority goes to those with special needs), and a camp-owned motel is 3 miles away. Kids usually welcome, but inquire whether there's a kids' program well in advance. Here's a beautiful, and accurate, promo video (I'm in it!). Another camper speaks.


● Minnesota PolyCon
Summer or Fall 2022; dates to be decided.
Minneapolis, MN

In 2018 this new one-day event drew 86 people, and 2019 "was a big success with an attendance of 171," writes MNPoly organizer Randy Frehse. For 2020 he wrote "We are hoping for 200 - 250 this year," but then it was cancelled by the pandemic. Ditto 2021. Sessions have included sex positivity & consent, anatomy of arousal, solo poly, polyamory & mental health, poly & parenting, poly & religion, deconstructing jealousy, being out & poly, and fundamentals of good communication for your polycule. For 2020 they planned to rent the campus of a local technical college. Sponsored and run by the MNPoly Meetup group.


● RelateCon Atlanta
Summer or Fall 2022? Dates to be decided.
Atlanta, GA

Description for 2020, canceled due to covid: "RelateCon-Atlanta is a three-day family-friendly conference that focuses on ethical non-monogamy and alternative relationships, providing education, socializing, and networking opportunities. We are the sister conference to RelateCon Boise, that's in its fourth year.

"In our inaugural year, we will be hosting 5 different tracks for different interests and experiences:
**Ethical Non-monogamy and Polyamory
**BDSM Relationships
**People of Color and ENM
**LGBTQIA and ENM
**ENM and Family

"We will also have a full-time gaming room that will run its own track, a catered Friday night social, and a formal Saturday Night Speak Easy!" The hotel was to be a Marriott near near the airport. Facebook page.



● Loving More Oregon Retreat
Late summer 2022?
Veronia, OR

The 2020 banner

This is the description for 2020, which was canceled due to covid. (Also cancelled in 2021.)

After a four-year hiatus, the Loving More summer retreat is back — now in Oregon instead of upstate New York. "This weekend-long retreat is an open-forum, highly interactive and participant-driven weekend of community, connection and opportunities to learn. You, the attendee, will co-create the agenda and schedule with fellow attendees and facilitators. We feel the best way to learn is to share with each other, so we offer a safe space for creative discourse, ideas and spontaneous workshops and playshops. The natural venue and smaller group allow an opportunity for deep connections." The site is about 30 miles north of Portland in view of Mount St. Helens.


On the dock at Polycamp Northeast

● Polycamp Northeast
August
 2022; dates to be decided. 
Eastern New Hampshire 

This 3½-day event began with a smashing success in August 2016 and has been running ever since, skipping 2020 during the pandemic. I attended three of the first four, and what a collection of loving hearts this has been each time. Attendance in 2021 sold out at 100 people (fully vaccinated), after reaching about 65 in previous years. People have self-organized a variety of talks and activities: nonviolent communication techniques, general poly discussion, genderqueer topics, yoga, nightly campfire, board games, crafts, a kayak race, cuddle party, dance. The venue is a well-equipped old New England summer camp (all cabins have private baths) in the New Hampshire lakes region north of Boston. Waterfront with paddleboards, kayaks, canoes, water trampoline. Three meals a day included.

"At PolyCamp Northeast, we support each other in the full spectrum of relationship structures, sexual orientations, and gender identities. This is a space of love, inclusion and acceptance. It is a culture of respect, safety, communication and healthy boundaries. We bring our best selves together to form a community where we can all thrive. Thank you for co-creating this community with us!"


● Endless Poly Summer
Late summer 2022? To be determined.
Abrams Creek Retreat Center and Campground, Mt. Storm, WV



The description for 2020, which was canceled due to Covid:

This will be the seventh year for Endless Poly Summer, one of the seasonal poly retreats that Indigo Dawn, Dawson Driver, Michael Rios and friends produce at Abrams Creek based on Network for a New Culture principles and ideas. These aim to build, over five days, enduring intimate community. I've gone to many of their events and endorse them highly. New Culture's practices for community creation and interpersonal-skills development are remarkable and effective. 

From the website: “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.... Spend up to 5 days in a rustic woods-and-water setting, hang out around a bonfire, enjoy a song circle, cuddle up at a snuggle party, learn to take your relationships to the next level, and build connections with others that last all year long! We invite top-notch presenters, and live, work, learn and play together.” Conditions are rustic, many people camp in tents, but indoor accommodations are available. A lovely, and accurate, promo video (I'm in it). Another camper speaks.


● At Burning Man
Estimated dates: Aug. 29 – Sept. 5, 2022. Check for updates.
Nevada desert
...should be back in business if real-life Burning Man returns in 2022.

The 2020 description:  PolyParadise has been running at the actual Burning Man for two decades. This is a large theme camp cluster, typically 350 x 440 feet, usually with about 300 campers, more than a third of them new each year in recent years. Workshops and events include Heart of Now, Poly High Tea, the famous Human Carcass Wash, the Hiney Hygiene Station, Mind Melt, Revolutionary Honesty, Mindful Hugging Meditation, and a poly mixer. Wrote Benevolent Dictator Scotto, "The Village of PolyParadise 2019 was absolutely incredible and our best effort yet at creating this amazing On-Playa home. Each year there are many challenges and together we find a way to make things right, together we build an amazing space within the gates of BRC, a place to really call home in the desert." Details.


● Autumn Polytreffen (Germany)
October 5 
 9, 2022
Gut Frohberg, Germany

The German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.deruns transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. The organizers say the gatherings are "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self organized by the participants." Minimum age 18. In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced. (Also see Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.
Fall 2022?
Madrid, Spain

From past years: "OpenCon Madrid es un evento abierto a todas aquellas personas que quieran descubrir que las relaciones felices y sinceras no han de ser necesariamente monógamas. ¿En qué consiste? Consiste en una combinación de debates, talleres y actividades lúdicas que te brindarán la oportunidad de conocer gente con tus mismas ideas y actitudes, compartir experiencias e inquietudes, ayudar a fortalecer nuestra comunidad y disfrutar de su diversidad. El contenido de la Opencon lo proporcionan las personas asistentes, por lo que cada convocatoria será diferente. Este año es la quinta vez que se celebra en Madrid." Each year the conference has sold out fast when registration opens.


● Polyday 2022 (UK)
Date to be announced, 2022
London?

In its past years pre-covid, Polyday was drawing a total of 200-plus people. The 2018 Polyday got a nice writeup in Vice UK. From the website, "Come and meet hundreds of people that identify as non-monogamous at the largest event in Europe on polyamory, Relationship Anarchy and other forms of non-monogamy. New to polyamory or just curious? Experienced in all forms of non-monogamy? Something in between? Polyday has something for you! In previous years talks have covered designing relationships, sexual health, polyamory and mental health, polyamory and children, and BAME and non-monogamy. There will be opportunities to socialise, meet up after the event, and quiet space if you need a break." Facebook page. In past years Polyday has sold out in advance.


_____________________________________________________________________

To add an event (of wide geographic interest, please) email it to me at alan7388 {at} gmail.com.



Kimchi Cuddles is based the cartoonist's real life. See her followup strip. And yes, she, "Rajeev" and "Terra" all made it to the Beyond the Love polycon in Ohio that year.





How to find your LOCAL POLY COMMUNITIES and their get-togethers!

 
For socials, potlucks, discussions, support, etc. near you, find and join your local poly group(s). You can:

● Try googling polyamory with your state and/or city. 

● Check Meetup.com with keyword polyamory and enter your zip code or city.

● Search Facebook Groups for polyamory with your state and/or city, and for poly with your state and/or city.


● If you're on Fetlife (NSFW landing page and content; TW: BDSM), you can search its groups for polyamory with your state and/or city, and for poly with your state and/or city.

● Check these lists:

   – Directory of Local Poly Groups maintained on Facebook. It's editable! If yours isn't here yet, add it.

   – Tristan Taormino's big list (needs updating), on the website of her book Opening Up. (Send additions, corrections, and changes to raymond (at) puckerup.com )

   – Canadian Polyamory Groups, maintained and updated by the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association.

   – Local Poly Group Registry, currently kept alive by Michael Rios at polyinfo.org. This once-grand list needs major updating. Send additions, corrections, and changes to groups (at) polyinfo.org. If you'd like to take ownership of this list and revive it, please write to that address.

And a caution: It's not like the old days. Most poly discussion-and-support groups are still caring and welcoming and excellently behaved. But now that the word "polyamory" is a Hot Trend, any rando with a motive or a weird definition of the word can create a "poly meetup" and expect newbies to show up. Like you.

So don't be too quick to assume, as you walk in the door, that you've finally found your long-sought tribe. Watch out if a group seems to center on one strong personality and her/his acolytes. Watch out for anyone who tries to draw you into a faction; they're often just as guilty of nasty crap, or more so, than the opposing faction. Bad actors will often work to turn you early against their legitimate critics.

Instead, ask around the larger community if the group has a good reputation. It's a good sign if the group has been around a long time long and its people are known. An excellent sign to watch for is distributed leadership. What that means is, you see many different people in charge of stuff, and an easy and equal style of discussion and decision-reaching. Cults are bad news.

And when dating, of course, follow sensible safe-dating practices as usual (for instance).


---------------------------------------------------------

Can't find a good local poly group? Maybe that's the universe saying you should start it! That's what Meetup.com is for.

Because good people will be and should be wary of you as described above, make sure to spell out right on Meetup your idea of good poly, who the group is for, and state at least a simple code of conduct for people who show up. A standard provision in poly groups, learned by long experience, is no hitting on people allowed; the group is for friendship and community building. If friendships evolve to dating, that happens offline.

– Here is organizer Kitty Chambliss's Polyamory Guide to Community Building. "So perhaps you’d like to start a community from scratch in your local area. I’m going to give you a roadmap for success to do just that!"

– And here are Joreth's many thoughts on the kinds of poly community events that might work in your area. She's been an organizer for a many years and has pretty much done it all.

– Simple, exact details of how to run a good, no-frills poly gathering: How I run poly picnic discussions, by Andrea Green. 

– Prefer audio? From the Polyamory Weekly podcast: Episode #365, Building Your Poly Community with Meetups; and Episode #464, Building Your Poly Community as it grows.

---------------------------------------------------------