Upcoming Polyam Events: next 12 months

Any I missed?  Fixes needed?
Write me at  alan7388 (at) gmail.com
—Alan M.,  Polyamory in the News

Events are beginning to
reopen in hopes that the
pandemic is subsiding. I'm
updating as you send me news.
alan7388 (at) gmail.com

near Aspen, Colorado
Full vaccination required

Robyn Trask and Jesus Garcia of Loving More have held this informal family-friendly campout nearly every year for more than 15 years. Lately about 30 people usually attend. Robyn writes, "Join us for a weekend of hiking, playing, and just hanging out with other poly families from the Rocky Mountain Region. This is [our] one thing each year where the kids get to join in. My kids love the campouts as much if not more than I do. It is wonderful to enjoy the beauty of the Colorado Mountains and spend time with wonderful poly people."

● International OpenCon Catalonia
July 1518, 2022
Galliners, Catalonia, Spain

After 2 years of limbo (not the dance with the stick, more like lost in a surreal fog), we are coming back to life! This year International OpenCon Catalonia will take place from July 15 to 18, and registration will open Thursday, April 14, at 8pm. We are suuuper excited!"

This will be OpenCon Catalonia's ninth year. Originally modeled on the UK OpenCon, it runs by a self-generated unconference program. "IOCC is an opportunity to get together in a friendly environment and share our experiences, our questions, the lessons we’ve learned, and the joys we’ve experienced in this new territory of polyamory/non-monogamy/open relationships. We’ll be about 40 people, and the basic plan is to combine workshops with plenty of opportunities for relaxing and socialising. Check the what will happen page to get an idea of how it could be, and don’t forget to read our Code of Conduct. Meals (breakfast, lunch, dinner) will be provided from Friday dinner to Monday lunch." 
The working language is English. Over 18 only.   SOLD OUT as of June 6.

July 1524, 2022 
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mount Storm, WV
Proof of vaccination and boost required. "All attendees will need to arrange a PCR-RT test no more than two days before they arrive at camp"; result required. Temp check and rapid antigen test will be done on arrival.

I've attended this interesting, powerful, ten-day event for many years. Network for a New Culture explores building intimate sustainable community through practices of curiosity, transparency, self-exploration, and self-responsibility. The days are structured around ZEGG Forum, various self-improvement and human-potential presenters visiting to offer their stuff, and sharing life, work, and play in the West Virginia mountain woods.

“While not exclusively a poly event,” says co-founder Michael Rios, “Summer Camp East is about 70% polyfolk, and 100% poly-friendly.” Here are my impressions from my first year. Here's a bit more from my fourth (last two paragraphs).

About 60 to 80 people usually attend. Vegetarian and vegan group meals; cabins and campsites in the woods (no vehicle hookups); bathhouse with sinks and hot showers. Conditions are mostly rustic, but s
ome indoor accommodations are available onsite (priority goes to those with special needs), and a camp-owned motel is 3 miles away. Kids usually welcome, but inquire whether there's a kids' program well in advance. Here's a beautiful, and accurate, promo video (I'm in it!). Another camper speaks.

● Minnesota PolyCon
July 24, 2022
Minneapolis, MN

In 2018 this new one-day event drew 86 people, and 2019 "was a big success with an attendance of 171," wrote MNPoly organizer Randy Frehse. For 2020 he wrote "We are hoping for 200 - 250," but then it was cancelled by the pandemic. Ditto 2021.  
But for 2022, "We're back!"

Sessions have included sex positivity & consent, anatomy of arousal, solo poly, polyamory & mental health, poly & parenting, poly & religion, deconstructing jealousy, being out & poly, and fundamentals of good communication for your polycule. Sponsored and run by the 
MNPoly Meetup group.

On the dock at Polycamp Northeast

● Polycamp Northeast 
 1821, 2022 
East-central New Hampshire 

This 3½-day event began with a smashing success in August 2016 (I was there) and has been running since, skipping 2020 during the pandemic. I attended three of the first four, and what a collection of loving hearts this has been each time. Attendance in 2021 sold out at 100 people, fully vaccinated, after reaching about 65 in previous years. People have self-organized a variety of talks and activities: nonviolent communication techniques, general poly discussion, genderqueer topics, yoga, nightly campfire, board games, crafts, a kayak race, cuddle party, dance. The venue is a well-equipped old New England summer camp (the group cabins each have a full bath) in the New Hampshire lakes region north of Boston. Waterfront with paddleboards, kayaks, canoes, water trampoline. Three meals a day included.

"At PolyCamp Northeast, we support each other in the full spectrum of relationship structures, sexual orientations, and gender identities. This is a space of love, inclusion and acceptance. It is a culture of respect, safety, communication and healthy boundaries. We bring our best selves together to form a community where we can all thrive. Thank you for co-creating this community with us!"
SOLD OUT, waiting list only, as of July 3.

● Endless Poly Summer
Late summer 2022? TBD
Abrams Creek Retreat Center and Campground, Mt. Storm, WV

The description for 2020, which was canceled due to Covid:

This will be the seventh year for Endless Poly Summer, one of the seasonal poly retreats that Indigo Dawn, Dawson Driver, Michael Rios and friends produce at Abrams Creek based on Network for a New Culture principles and ideas. These aim to build, over five days, enduring intimate community. I've gone to many of their events and endorse them highly. New Culture's practices for community creation and interpersonal-skills development are remarkable and effective. 

From the website: “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.... Spend up to 5 days in a rustic woods-and-water setting, hang out around a bonfire, enjoy a song circle, cuddle up at a snuggle party, learn to take your relationships to the next level, and build connections with others that last all year long! We invite top-notch presenters, and live, work, learn and play together.” Conditions are rustic, many people camp in tents, but indoor accommodations are available. A lovely, and accurate, promo video (I'm in it). Another camper speaks.

Aug. 28 – Sept. 5, 2022
Nevada desert

Village of PolyParadise will be back in 2022. PolyParadise has been running at Burning Man for two decades. This is a large theme-camp cluster, typically 350 x 440 feet, usually with about 300 campers. Typically 2/3 are repeats from previous years, 1/3 are new. Workshops and events include Heart of Now, Poly High Tea, the famous Human Carcass Wash, the Hiney Hygiene Station, Mind Melt, Revolutionary Honesty, Mindful Hugging Meditation, a poly mixer, and the Twisted Swan Celtic pub. Writes Benevolent Dictator Scotto, "The Village of PolyParadise 2019 [the previous one in-person] was absolutely incredible and our best effort yet at creating this amazing On-Playa home. Each year there are many challenges and together we find a way to make things right, together we build an amazing space within the gates of BRC, a place to really call home in the desert." Details.
September 24, 2022
Ávila, Spain

¿En qué consiste? Consiste en una combinación de debates, talleres y actividades lúdicas que te brindarán la oportunidad de conocer gente con tus mismas ideas y actitudes, compartir experiencias e inquietudes, ayudar a fortalecer nuestra comunidad y disfrutar de su diversidad. El contenido de la OpenCon lo proporcionan las personas asistentes, por lo que cada convocatoria será diferente. Este año (2022) será la séptima vez que se celebre. Os damos una idea de cómo fue la agenda de años anteriores.  Each year, this conference has sold out fast when registration opens.

September 1518, 2022
Cedar Ridge Retreat & Conference Center, Vernonia, OR
Proof of covid vaccination required.

Upper Lodge House, Cedar Ridge Retreat & Conference Center
After a four-year hiatus, the Loving More summer retreat is back — now in Oregon instead of upstate New York. Attendance will be limited to 75. "This weekend-long retreat is an open-forum, highly interactive and participant-driven weekend of community, connection and opportunities to learn. You, the attendee, will co-create the agenda and schedule with fellow attendees and facilitators. We feel the best way to learn is to share with each other, so we offer a safe space for creative discourse, ideas and spontaneous workshops and playshops. The natural venue and smaller group allow an opportunity for deep connections." The site is about 30 miles north of Portland in view of Mount St. Helens. 

Lower Manhattan, NY
October 1–2, 2022 (Note the new dates; moved from July)

Solo poly symbol
This roving conference, "for solo polyamorous people and those who love them," missed 2020 during covid and ran online in 2021. Now it's back live.
"Are you new to polyamory and exploring the many possible configurations, or been practicing honest non-monogamy for decades? Regardless of where you are on the experience spectrum, you’ll appreciate the support, community, camaraderie, hospitality, and awesome keynote speakers we’re assembling for your enjoyment, learning, and growth.

In past years SoPoCo sold out in advance.

● Southwest LoveFest Phoenix
October 1
, 2022
Phoenix, AZ

The Southwest LoveFest Tucson folks are branching out. They write, "Introducing a new mini-conference held in Phoenix, AZ. This one-day conference will have workshops throughout the day with a food truck onsite and also evening entertainment." Details to follow; check the link.
● Autumn Polytreffen (Germany)
October 5
9, 2022
Gut Frohberg, Germany

The German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.deruns transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. The organizers say the gatherings are "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self organized by the participants." Minimum age 18. In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced. (Also see Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.

● Polyday 2022 (UK)
Date to be announced, 2022

This was cancelled for covid in 2020 and 2021. In October 2021 they announced, "So it's October and usually the Polyday team is frantically putting in the last minute prep, but sadly there's a plague. We want to come back even better next year [2022] and that's why we want your feedback and ideas
And if you just can't wait until 2022 we have been continuing to hold regular online meetups via our meetup group, The London Polyamory Meetup Group."

In its past years pre-covid, Polyday was drawing a total of 200-plus people. The 2018 Polyday got a nice writeup in Vice UK. From the website, "Come and meet hundreds of people that identify as non-monogamous at the largest event in Europe on polyamory, Relationship Anarchy and other forms of non-monogamy. New to polyamory or just curious? Experienced in all forms of non-monogamy? Something in between? Polyday has something for you! In previous years talks have covered designing relationships, sexual health, polyamory and mental health, polyamory and children, and BAME and non-monogamy. There will be opportunities to socialise, meet up after the event, and quiet space if you need a break." Facebook page. In past years Polyday has sold out in advance.

October 2022? This second CPW retreat of the season may or may not happen this year.
Steamboat Springs, CO

"Colorado Poly Weekend is a long weekend retreat for polyamorous people and those in poly relationships to hang out together in a poly-normative, accepting environment. The weekend goes from Friday afternoon to Monday or Tuesday morning and is held each summer and/or fall in the beautiful Rocky Mountains in Steamboat Springs, Colorado. Relax, make new friends, and enjoy the beauty of the Rockies!"

October 2022? Dates to be set.
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV

This is a smaller, more intimate version of New Culture Summer Camp held in July at the Abrams Creek Retreat Center in the mountains of West Virginia (see July here for description). These events draw about 70% polyfolks; the focus is on building practices of transparency, self-understanding, communication skills, and intimacy to create radically better relationships of any type. The aim to build, over several days, an enduring network of like-minded people who don't necessarily fall out of touch as happens after most events. "The point is building tribe," says organizer Michael Rios.

I've gone to the larger New Culture Summer Camp for many years and can't recommend New Culture events highly enough. From the website: “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.... Spend up to 5 days in a rustic woods-and-water setting, hang out around a bonfire, enjoy a song circle, cuddle up at a snuggle party, learn to take your relationships to the next level, and build connections with others that last all year long!”

Explains Michael, "We are exploring the questions: What does it mean to be there for each other? What would it take to be solidly present in each others’ lives, responding flexibly and with love to the needs that emerge? What might we do right now to be there for each other? What role does commitment play? The deep truth is that each person is fundamentally alone. Yet at the same time, there is beauty and skillfulness in interdependence.... And beyond merely meeting needs, we can find delight in co-creation, and in the many ways we can support each other in greater joy. At this community journey, we will open these explorations in a field of love, curiosity, and compassion." Video. Also, a camper's video.

● Outside The Box: Pittsburgh Polyamory Conference
Fall 2022? Watch the link for any news.
Pittsburgh, PA

Laszlo Productions, a Pittsburgh-based GLBTQIA events producer, put on this new one-day conference in 2019. Organizer Lyndsey Sickler posts "We had a great time! Looking forward to planning the 2020 conference!" But that didn't happen in either the first or second year of covid. We await news for 2022.

From the 2019 announcement: "We are excited to be putting together Pittsburgh's First Poly Conference. Outside the Box will take place at Persad Center.... The conference is FREE (donations gladly accepted)." The Persad Center is an LGBTQ human services, activist, and community center. The program ran from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Here were the 2019 sessions.

November 1920, 2022

PolyCon Canada is a project of the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association (CPAA). "Polycon 2021: a Virtual UnConference was a big hit, and we're excited to announce that we will be hosting another virtual conference November 19th & 20th!"

From the description for the 2021 event: "The Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association warmly invites you to join us for Polycon Canada, a virtual unConference for a weekend of exploring the diversity of the consensually-non monogamous experience in the colonial lands known as Canada. With a focus on supporting BIPOC, LGBTQ+ and other marginalized voices, this event is an unconference, meaning that YOU get to have a say in deciding the shape of it." Keynote speakers were Kim TallBear and Clementine Morrigan.

● Beyond The Love
Late 2022? Get newsletter for 
Columbus, Ohio

In 2019 this large weekend conference, under new management, moved from its hotel to a smaller venue due to construction at the hotel. In 2020 and 2021 it was cancelled due to covid. We await news for 2022; sign up to get info.

Here were the 2019 presentersclasses and schedule. The new diversity and inclusiveness policy. The 2019 conference sold out at 250 attendees. Here's Kitty Chambliss's writeup of her experiences at the 2018 BTL.


● Poly Living East
February 2023; dates to be announced
Philadelphia, PA

Poly Living is put on by the Loving More nonprofit group, in a nice, large hotel near the Philadelphia airport and a rail stop. 2023 will be Poly Living's 16th year (the 14th under Loving More's management). It normally draws a lively, increasingly diverse crowd of about 200 interesting people for talks, workshops, socializing, sharing, party and fun. Here were the 2020 sessions and presenters. Here's my writeup of the first Poly Living I attended (2006). In 2012 I gave the keynote speech. I'll be back again in 2023! Hope to meet you there.

Loving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the original poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.

Winter 2023; dates to be announced
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV

Indigo Dawn, Dawson Driver, Michael Rios and their friends and partners in Network for a New Culture organize several poly and poly-friendly workshop retreats around the year at their Abrams Creek Campground and Conference Center in the mountains of West Virginia. Their goal is to build, over several days, an enduring network of sympathetic people who won't necessarily fall out of touch as happens after many events. “The point is building tribe,” says Michael.

I went to Winter Poly Wonderland in 2018 and 2020 and have attended the (largely poly) Network for a New Culture Summer Camp East for many years. New Culture's practices for community creation and interpersonal-skills development, from ZEGG Forum to relationship workshops, are ideal for this ambitious goal. “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.” In 2020 Winter Poly Wonderland sold out with 45 of us. It skipped 2021 and 2022 because of covid.

● RelateFest
March 2023?
Miami, FL

"RelateFest is for people who love exploring relationships, questioning relationship norms, learning new skills, and connecting with others. 

"RelateFest brings the principles of curiosity and conscious relating to a safe space for learning, connection, and play. The event will feature relationship experts holding interactive workshops, small group discussions, and immersive experiences. Produced by Esther Perel Discussion Group, Leveled Up Love and WeDeepen."

This event is new to me. Tickets $497+ per person. Hotel options range from pricy (onsite) to basic (offsite). This is one of many wellness/ growth/ relationship/ spiritual events put on by the Deepen company, "the most raved about Social & Transformational Experiences." 

Spring 2023? Date TBD.

A one-day online conference. Description from the April 2022 event: "Polyamory Day is the biggest digital showcase of polyamory and non-monogamy in UK and Ireland. Facilitated and featuring renowned creators, coaches, authors, academics, lawyers and comedians in the UK and Ireland." The April 2022 schedule. And the schedule of the previous online Polyamory Day, November 27, 2021.

(This is not to be confused with the UK's unrelated, long-running Polyday, which was drawing a total of 200-plus people each fall pre-covid.

Spring 2023, date TBD
Bastrop State Park, near Austin, Texas

After missing several years, Poly Big Fun came back for 2022. From the 2022 description: "Join us for our 25th (Silver) Anniversary! Poly Big Fun, the longest running polyamory event in Texas, is a community driven event that offers three days of workshops, connection, games, parties, fun and shared experiences nestled in Bastrop State Park! Starting at under $100 per person, this event provides food, lodging, learning experiences and lifelong connections.

"Poly Big Fun (PBF) is a community organized retreat open to all families. Workshops are given by members of our community on topics that they are knowledgeable and passionate about. Board game and other geek enthusiasts abound. There will be a Polyamory 101 class and ice-breaking events, so whether you have been practicing polyamory for 2 weeks or 25 years, you will find opportunities to connect with your community here!
"Previous events have featured dancing, crafts, hiking, bike riding and other events. Bring your passion, volunteer to teach, help make our shared experience better!"  Facebook page.

● Love Is Love (Germany)
Spring 2023
Mühlhausen?, Germany

The German organizations PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V. (Polyamory.de), and Bisexuelles Netzwerk e.V. (BiNe.net) created this new conference last year as the region emerged from the pandemic disruptions. Check these links for updates about 2023. The working language is German. The limit in 2022 was 60 people.

PolyAmores Netzwerk normally runs transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. The organizers say the gatherings are "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities." (Also, see the Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.)

April 2023? Dates TBD
Tucson, AZ

Pre-pandemic this was it was the largest and fastest-growing convention, with over 400 people in 2019. In 2022 it was split between a limited-size live con and an online virtual con. The workshops and speakers for both. For 2023, the organizers say,  "Southwest Love Fest returns to our former grand scale of 200+ attendees with workshops and entertainment from Friday to Sunday. Date & Location to be announced."

My description of the live convention from previous years: "The first Southwest Love Fest in 2018 sold out with over 225 attendees, and the second in 2019 had over 400. (The only polyamory/CNM convention to beat that record was the one-time OpenSF in SanFrancisco in 2012, with 500.) I was at SW Love Fest in 2018 and found the vibe exuberant and excited, the attendees (80% from Arizona) great-hearted and significantly diverse, and the presenters I saw were mostly excellent. The Saturday-night social events included, simultaneously, a treasure hunt, an EDM dance party with costuming available, and a cuddle puddle in a big pop-up gazebo under the stars. There was a CEU track for psychology professionals to earn continuing-education credits. Child care was offered onsite both years.

"Conference organizers Kate Kincaid and Sara Bachmann-Williams recruited many volunteers from the Tucson and Phoenix poly and kink communities, and the success of the event seems to have come largely from word of mouth. Heavy early involvement by the local community seems to make the difference for the success of a polycon.

"Kate says that she and Sara will help advise anyone who wants to start a hotel polycon in their own city; write to southwestlovefest AT gmail.com."

Spring 2023?
Portland, Oregon

Description for 2020, the last Polytopia before it was suspended for covid: "Sex-Positive Portland will host the city's sixth annual polyamory and open relationship symposium and celebration. Join us for three days of radical love, relationships and sustainability." Slogan: "Revolution through radical loving."

"Polytopia offers workshops for those who are relatively new to navigating the joys and pitfalls of loving more and workshops for those who are already well-experienced with polyamory who are looking for ways to better live the life they love. Workshops will be in a variety of formats ranging from lecture and discussion to experiential and embodied activities in dyads, triads and more. We will also offer lunchtime discussion panels and affinity groups to choose from each day to deepen our knowledge and connections with each other." Facebook page.

May 2023; dates to be set
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV

"A multi-day experiment in loving community and cultural change. Each year we choose a new theme, an aspect of life that we want to explore." 

New Culture events draw about 70% polyfolks and are super poly-friendly. From the description for 2020, canceled by covid: "Along with New Culture community and intimacy-building practices, like connection games, Going Deeper, and daily community Forums, mornings will feature workshops that help us find our creative voice and vision; every afternoon we’ll break into creativity focus groups (music, drawing, dance, singing, poetry, ritual, innovation, etc.); evenings and the last day will have space for sharing our creations. All in a supportive community, with plenty of time for cuddles (if you want them), conversations, and connections!"

● Rocky Mountain Poly Living
2023; dates to be set
Denver, CO

The 2022 banner

Rocky Mountain Poly Living came back in 2022 after a two-year pandemic hiatus and will be on again for 2023. It's run by Loving More (based in Colorado), which also puts on Poly Living East in Philadelphia. As in Philly: Talks, workshops, socializing, sharing, dance party, warmth, and fun.
"Rocky Mountain Poly Living has an amazing mix of workshops, playshops, and entertainment.  Poly Living is a place to learn relationship skills, workshops are focused on polyamorous relating, intimacy and living, and opportunities to meet like minded people."

Here were the Denver 2019 talks and workshops and their presenters. In 2016 I gave the keynote speech.

Loving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the original poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.

● Colorado Poly Weekend retreat
Summer 2023; dates to be set
Steamboat Springs, CO

The Colorado Polyamory Weekend retreat usually draws 20 to 35 people to a large lodge in the Colorado mountains. It has run since 2016, skipping 2020 during the pandemic, and was held in 2021 and 2022. "This long- weekend retreat is for polyamorous people and those in poly relationships to hang out together in a poly-normative, accepting environment. Relax, hike, sing, dance, play games, and enjoy the beauty of the Rockies with new polyamorous friends!"

A second Colorado Poly Weekend retreat may also be held in fall 2023, depending on whether it would conflict with another poly retreat that may or may not take place this year.

● Summer Polytreffen (Germany)
2023; dates to be set
Rittergut Lützensömmern, Germany

The German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.deruns transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. The organizers say the gatherings are "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self organized by the participants." Minimum age 18. In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced. (Also see Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.)

TBD, 2023
Alborache, València, Spain

"Un esdeveniment per a compartir experiències sobre les relacions afectives ètiques no normatives: Poliamor, Anarquia Relacional, Xarxes Afectives, etc. Un cap de setmana de debats, tallers i activitats lúdiques que ens brindaran l'oportunitat de conèixer gent amb idees i actituds obertes entorn a les relacions afectives. Un espai on compartir experiències i inquietuds sobre models de vincles entre les persones, des d'una perspectiva feminista, solidària i basada en el respecte. El contingut de l'OpenCon el proporcionen les persones assistents, per la qual cosa cada convocatòria és una sorpresa i una experiència única." Poliamor Valencia Facebook page.

● Black Poly Pride

Summer 2023? Dates to be announced. Other events continue online.
Washington, DC?

If the 2023 conference happens, it will be the second for this event and its first in DC. From the 2020 description before pandemic cancellations: "Co-founders @calicoeyez215 and @therealchanee are already hard at work with the help of the leaders of the black polyamorous community on the ground in D.C. and Nation wide! ... The theme for #blackpolypride2020, 'Black Polyamory: A Revolutionary Act,' will honor our past and highlight the many ways black polyamory enriches the ways in which we love, live and shape our futures." Facebook page.

Summer 2023; dates to be announced. 
near Eganville, Ontario

After running for several years at a well-equipped lakeside campground, Polywood Camp was cancelled for covid in 2020, then a version was held online in 2021. Check website or Facebook for 2023 news. 

About previous years' campouts: "A kid-friendly poly camping weekend, at Raven’s Knoll Campground. Join us at Polywood this year to laugh, learn, and community build under the stars. Meet fellow like-minded poly people around the large communal bonfire; take part in various relationship building and strengthening discussions; share your poly knowledge and experiences over wine and cheese." Swimming, showerhouse, food truck. Camper hookups available, dogs welcome. "We have limited scholarship funds available; email us at polywood.camping@gmail.com for more information."

Summer 2023? Sign up at site for announcements.
Columbus, Ohio

A one-day event. "Polyamory Unconference is an event that is run by you, the participants! Attendees get to propose, vote on, and run sessions themselves. You’ll set the agenda and create an environment of innovation and productive discussion! Request topics and workshops on issues that you want to hear about, or present something — a facilitated discussion, a workshop on a specific skill, or a lecture on a topic you are familiar with. Advantages of the unconference format include: a focus on topics that are relevant to the attendees, an opportunity for teamwork development, flexibility of schedule, and an emphasis on contributions from every participant. The relationships built during an unconference often continue well past the event." 


To add an event (of wide geographic interest, please) email it to me at alan7388 {at} gmail.com.

Kimchi Cuddles is based the cartoonist's real life. See her followup strip. And yes, she, "Rajeev" and "Terra" all made it to the Beyond the Love polycon in Ohio that year.

How to find your LOCAL POLY COMMUNITIES and their get-togethers!

For socials, potlucks, discussions, support, etc. near you, find and join your local poly group(s). You can:

● Try googling polyamory with your state and/or city. 

● Check Meetup.com with keyword polyamory and enter your zip code or city.

● Search Facebook Groups for polyamory with the name of your state and/or city, and for poly with your state and/or city. Ditto Instagram, Twitter.

● If you're on Fetlife (NSFW landing page and content; TW: BDSM), you can search its groups for polyamory with your state and/or city, and for poly with your state and/or city.

● In Canada, see 
Canadian Polyamory Groups, a huge list that's maintained by the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association with attempts to keep it up to date.

And a caution: It's not like the old days. Most poly discussion-and-support groups are still safe and welcoming and very well behaved. But now that the word "polyamory" is a Trend, any rando with a motive -- or their own skewed definition of the word -- can create a "poly meetup" and expect newbies to show up. Like you.

So don't be too quick to assume, as you walk in the door, that you've finally found your long-sought tribe. Watch out if a group seems to center on one strong personality and her or his acolytes. Watch out for anyone who tries to draw you into a faction; they're often, maybe usually, guiltier of nasty crap than the opposing faction. Bad actors often try early to turn you against their legitimate critics.

Instead, ask around the larger community if the group has a good reputation. It's a good sign if the group has been around a long time and its people are known. An excellent sign to watch for is distributed leadership. That means you see various different people in charge of stuff, and an easy and equal style of discussion and decision-reaching. Cults are bad news.

And when dating, of course, follow sensible safe-dating practices as always. (For instance. More.)


Can't find a good local poly group? Maybe that's the universe saying you should start it! That's what Meetup.com is for.

Good people will and should be just a bit wary of you as described above, so make sure to spell out right on Meetup your idea of good poly, who the group is for, and at least a simple code of conduct. A standard rule in poly discussion-and-support groups, learned by long experience, is no pickup attempts; the group is for friendship, support, and community. If friendships evolve to dating, that happens offline.

– Here is organizer Kitty Chambliss's Polyamory Guide to Community Building. "So perhaps you’d like to start a community from scratch in your local area. I’m going to give you a roadmap for success to do just that!"

– Here are Joreth's many thoughts on the kinds of poly community events that might work in your area. She's been an organizer for many years and has pretty much done it all.

– Simple, exact details of how to plan and run a good poly gathering: How I run poly picnic discussions, by Andrea Green. 

– Prefer audio? From the Polyamory Weekly podcast: Episode #365, Building Your Poly Community with Meetups; and Episode #464, Building Your Poly Community as it grows.



  1. All the events are great.... your calendar is full of magic... :)

  2. Interesting concept. I have a non geek friend who refers to my triad as "what happens when you marginalize people and leave them alone to long."
    I just laugh.

  3. Can you publish this as a Google Calendar? It's so much easier to add the calendar and view the events in the context of the rest of my life's schedule. We have a very full Google Calendar feed in the Bay Area that hundreds subscribe to.