Upcoming Events: next 12 months

Any I missed?  Fixes needed?
Write me at  alan7388 (at) gmail.com
—Alan M.,  Polyamory in the News

COVID-19 SITUATION: I'm updating 
these listings as announced.
Default: Assume no big in-person
gatherings until way into 2021.
--Alan M.


● Winter Poly Wonderland
February 12–15, 2021 (Cancelled due to Covid)
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV

Indigo Dawn, Dawson Driver, Michael Rios and their friends and partners in Network for a New Culture organize several poly and poly-friendly workshop retreats around the year at their Abrams Creek Campground and Conference Center in the mountains of West Virginia. Their goal is to build, over several days, an enduring network of sympathetic people from all over who won't necessarily fall out of touch as happens after many events. “The point is building tribe,” says Michael.

I went to Winter Poly Wonderland in 2018 and 2020 and have attended the (largely poly) Network for a New Culture Summer Camp East for many years. New Culture's practices for community creation and interpersonal-skills development, from ZEGG Forum to relationshipping workshops, are ideal for this ambitious goal. “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.” In 2020 Winter Poly Wonderland sold out with 45 of us.

● Winter Polytreffen (Germany)
February 12–16, 2021
Rommerz, Germany

The German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.de, runs transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. According to the organizers, the gatherings serve as "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical know-how. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self organized by the participants. Minimum age 18. Two 'Grand Poly Meetings' take place every spring and fall; these draw 40 to 150 people for up to 70 workshops, talks and other events, depending on the format. The smaller winter meeting gathers about 40." In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced. (Also see Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.)

● Poly Living East
February 19–21, 2021 (Cancelled. Says organizer Robyn Trask, "Our first event post pandemic, we hope, will be Poly Living in February 2022, and we intend to make it amazing." 
Philadelphia, PA

Poly Living is put on each year by the Loving More nonprofit group, in an excellent large hotel near the Philadelphia airport and a rail stop. This will be Poly Living's 16th year (the 14th under Loving More's management). It's been drawing a lively, diverse crowd of about 200 interesting people for talks, workshops, socializing, sharing, party and fun. Here were the 2020 sessions and presenters. Here's my writeup of the first Poly Living I attended (2006). In 2012 I gave the keynote speech. I'll be back again this time. Hope to meet you there!

Loving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the original poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.

Dates/plans to be announced, 2021
Tucson, Arizona

This convention is on the way up, or at least was until cancelled by COVID-19 last year. The first Southwest Love Fest in 2018 sold out with over 225 attendees, and the second in 2019 had over 400. (The only polyamory/ ethical nonmonogamy convention to beat that record was the one-time OpenSF in SanFrancisco in 2012 with 500.) I was at SW Love Fest in 2018 and found the vibe exuberant and excited, the attendees (80% from Arizona) great-hearted and significantly diverse, and the presenters I saw were mostly excellent. The Saturday-night social-activity events included a simultaneous treasure hunt, dance party with costuming available, and a cuddle puddle in a pop-up gazebo under the stars. There was a CEU track to enable psychology professionals to earn continuing-education credits. There was child care both years.

Conference organizers Kate Kincaid and Sara Bachmann-Williams recruited many volunteers from the Tucson and Phoenix poly and kink communities, and the success of the event seems to have come largely from word of mouth. Heavy involvement by the local community seems to make the difference for the success of a polycon.

Kate says that she and Sara will help advise anyone who wants to start a hotel polycon in their own city; write to southwestlovefest AT gmail.com.

● SoPoCo: Solo Polyamory Conference
Dates to be announced, fall 2021
Place to be announced (was to be New York in 2020)

Solo poly symbol
This roving conference, centering on SoPo's, is entering its fourth year (not counting last year's cancelled event due to Covid-19). "Are you new to polyamory and exploring the many possible configurations, or been practicing honest non-monogamy for decades? Regardless of where you are on the experience spectrum, you’ll appreciate the support, community, camaraderie, hospitality, and awesome keynote speakers we’re assembling for your enjoyment, learning, and growth. Building on 2017's inaugural worldwide event in Vancouver BC and 2018's event in Seattle [and 2019's in San Francisco], in association with Facebook's largest and most vibrant solo polyamory discussion group, this is your opportunity to meet other solo non-monogamous people and share real life experiences!" In past years SoPoCo has sold out in advance.

● Rocky Mountain Poly Living
 (Cancelled for 2021. Dates in 2022 to be announced.
Denver, CO

Rocky Mountain Poly Living is run by Loving More (based in Colorado), which has put on Poly Living East in Philadelphia every February for 13 years. As in Philly: Talks, workshops, socializing, sharing, dance party, warmth, and fun. The Denver attendance in 2019 was 125. (2020 was cancelled due to Covid.) Here were the Denver 2019 talks/workshops and their presenters. In 2016 I gave the keynote speechLoving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the original poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.

● RelateCon Boise
April 23–25, 2021
Boise, Idaho

Paid registrations for the 2020 conference will be honored for the 2021 conference.

"RelateCon provides a unique and supportive gathering place for polyamorous people to connect as a community through educational workshops, social spaces, and opportunities for networking. The core value of this conference is to empower healthy relationships across a myriad of configurations." The first RelateCon in 2017 drew about 120 people, impressive for a first event, and in 2018 it nearly sold out. Here were the 2019 presentersFacebook page. Twitter. Wrote organizer Ginger Polynirvana in 2017, "We are able to offer a simultaneous Professional track at RelateCon, which will offer CEUs to a wide variety of disciplines such as lawyers, social workers, counselors, and teachers." Here's Kitty Chambliss's enthusiastic writeup of the 2017 event. Here's the local alternative weekly paper's writeup that year.

The organizers are also starting a RelateCon in Atlanta in August, postponed from last year.

● Polytopia
Dates to be announced, 2021
Portland, Oregon

Sex-Positive Portland will host the city's sixth annual polyamory and open relationship symposium and celebration. "Join us for three days of radical love, relationships and sustainability. Slogan: "Revolution through radical loving."

"Polytopia offers workshops for those who are relatively new to navigating the joys and pitfalls of loving more and workshops for those who are already well-experienced with polyamory who are looking for ways to better live the life they love. Workshops will be in a variety of formats ranging from lecture and discussion to experiential and embodied activities in dyads, triads and more. We will also offer lunchtime discussion panels and affinity groups to choose from each day to deepen our knowledge and connections with each other." Facebook page.

Dates to be announced, 2021
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV

New Culture Spring Camp for 2020 was to be "Creativity Camp" until cancelled by Covid. New Culture events draw about 70% polyfolks, however the theme for this one will be artistic expression. From the description for 2020: "Along with New Culture community and intimacy-building practices, like connection games, Going Deeper, and daily community Forums, mornings will feature workshops that help us find our creative voice and vision; every afternoon we’ll break into creativity focus groups (music, drawing, dance, singing, poetry, ritual, innovation, etc.); evenings and the last day will have space for sharing our creations. All in a supportive community, with plenty of time for cuddles (if you want them), conversations, and connections!"

● Summer Polytreffen (Germany)
May 25
–30, 2021

The German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.deruns transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. The organizers say the gatherings are "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self organized by the participants." Minimum age 18. In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced. (Also see Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.)

● International OpenCon Catalonia
Dates to be announced, 2021
Galliners, Catalonia, Spain

2021 will be OpenCon Catalonia's ninth year. Originally modeled on the UK OpenCon, it runs by a self-generated unconference program. "An opportunity to get together in a friendly environment and share our experiences, our questions, the lessons we’ve learned, and the joys we’ve experienced in this new territory of polyamory/non-monogamy/open relationships. The basic plan is to combine workshops with plenty of opportunities for relaxing and socialising. Check the what will happen page for details on the programme as it develops." 
The working language is English. Over 18 only. Capacity 40; sells out far in advance. 
Read about past years.

● Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference
Date to be announced, 2021
Chicago, IL

This one-day event began in 2017 with help from the Relationship Equality Foundation and has continued each year since except for 2020, when it was cancelled by the Covid pandemic. "Our goal is to help bring the Chicago non-monogamy community together across all the lines that divide us — age, gender, race, class, location, ability, configuration, label, and all of the other categories which house us." Facebook page. The 2019 schedule, sessions and presenters. Contact: chinonmonocon (at) gmail.com

● OpenCon València
Dates to be announced, 2021
Alborache, València, Spain

"Un esdeveniment per a compartir experiències sobre les relacions afectives ètiques no normatives: Poliamor, Anarquia Relacional, Xarxes Afectives, etc. Un cap de setmana de debats, tallers i activitats lúdiques que ens brindaran l'oportunitat de conèixer gent amb idees i actituds obertes entorn a les relacions afectives. Un espai on compartir experiències i inquietuds sobre models de vincles entre les persones, des d'una perspectiva feminista, solidària i basada en el respecte. El contingut de l'OpenCon el proporcionen les persones assistents, per la qual cosa cada convocatòria és una sorpresa i una experiència única." Poliamor Valencia Facebook page.

● Black Poly Pride

Summer 2021, dates to be announced
Washington, DC

This will be the second year for this event and its first in DC. From the 2020 description before cancellation due to Covid: "Co-founders @calicoeyez215 and @therealchanee are already hard at work with the help of the leaders of the black polyamorous community on the ground in D.C. and Nation wide! ... The theme for #blackpolypride2020, 'Black Polyamory: A Revolutionary Act,' will honor our past and highlight the many ways black polyamory enriches the ways in which we love, live and shape our futures." Facebook page.

● Colorado Poly Weekend Retreat
Dates to be announced, 2021
Steamboat Springs, CO

"The Colorado Poly Weekend is an annual long weekend retreat for polyamorous people and people in poly-relationships to hang out together in a poly-normative, accepting environment. The weekend goes from Friday afternoon to Monday afternoon and is held each summer in the beautiful Colorado Rocky Mountains in Steamboat Springs, Colorado. Relax, make new friends, and enjoy the beauty of the Rockies!"

Organizer Tom Satter has written that this event is quite different from the Loving More Campout in Colorado, also in summer, which is run by his Loving More friends. "The [Loving More] campout is for families and is a camping event. Our retreat is for adults only, because there does tend to be some drinking and a lot of innuendo and we tend to play adult-oriented games like Cards Against Humanity. Also, our retreat is lodge based — people pay one fee for the weekend and that covers all lodging and food from Friday afternoon to Monday at noon. I donate monthly to Loving More and really like Robyn and Chuy when I get to see them."

● Rocky Mountain Polyamory Family Campout
Dates to be announced, 2021
near Aspen, Colorado

Robyn Trask and Jesus Garcia of Loving More have held this informal family-friendly campout nearly every year for more than 15 years. Of late about 30 people usually attend. Robyn writes, "Join us for a weekend of hiking, playing, and just hanging out with other poly families from the Rocky Mountain Region. This is the one thing each year where the kids get to join in. My kids love the campouts as much if not more than I do. It is wonderful to enjoy the beauty of the Colorado Mountains and spend time with wonderful poly people."

● Polyamory Unconference
Summer 2021 (dates to be announced)
Columbus, Ohio

A one-day event. "Polyamory Unconference is an event that is run by you, the participants! Attendees get to propose, vote on, and run sessions themselves. You’ll set the agenda and create an environment of innovation and productive discussion! Request topics and workshops on issues that you want to hear about, or present something — a facilitated discussion, a workshop on a specific skill, or a lecture on a topic you are familiar with. Advantages of the unconference format include: a focus on topics that are relevant to the attendees, an opportunity for teamwork development, flexibility of schedule, and an emphasis on contributions from every participant. The relationships built during an unconference often continue well past the event."

● Network for a New Culture Summer Camp East
July 2021 (dates to be announced)
Abrams Creek Retreat and Conference Center, Mount Storm, WV

I've attended this interesting, powerful, ten-day event for nine years. Network for a New Culture explores building intimate sustainable community through practices of curiosity, transparency, self-exploration, and self-responsibility. The days are structured around ZEGG Forum, various self-improvement and human-potential presenters visiting to offer their stuff, and sharing life, work, and play in the West Virginia mountain woods.

“While not exclusively a poly event,” says co-founder Michael Rios, “Summer Camp East is about 70% polyfolk, and 100% poly-friendly.” Here are my impressions from my first year. Here's a bit more from my fourth (last two paragraphs).

About 60 to 80 people attend. Vegetarian group meals; cabins and campsites in the woods (no vehicle hookups); bathhouse with sinks and hot showers. Some indoor accommodations are available onsite. Conditions are rustic, but a camp-owned motel is 3 miles away. Kids welcome; inquire about kids' program. Here's a beautiful, and accurate, promo video (I'm in it). Another camper speaks.

● Minnesota PolyCon
Date to be announced, 2021
Minneapolis, MN

In 2018 this new one-day event drew 86 people, and 2019 "was a big success with an attendance of 171," writes MNPoly organizer Randy Frehse. For 2020 he wrote "We are hoping for 200 - 250 this year," but then it was cancelled for the Covid pandemic. Sessions have included sex positivity & consent, anatomy of arousal, solo poly, polyamory & mental health, poly & parenting, poly & religion, deconstructing jealousy, being out & poly, and fundamentals of good communication for your polycule. For 2020 they planned to rent the campus of a local technical college. Said Randy, "we are in the process of detailing out a landing page for the conference at MNPolycon.org" (Dec. 28, 2019). Sponsored and run by the MNPoly Meetup group.

● RelateCon Atlanta
Summer 2021, date to be determined 
Atlanta, GA

Description for 2020, which was canceled due to Covid:

"RelateCon-Atlanta is a three-day family-friendly conference that focuses on ethical non-monogamy and alternative relationships, providing education, socializing, and networking opportunities. We are the sister conference to RelateCon Boise, that's in its fourth year.

"In our inaugural year, we will be hosting 5 different tracks for different interests and experiences:
**Ethical Non-monogamy and Polyamory
**BDSM Relationships
**People of Color and ENM
**ENM and Family

"We will also have a full-time gaming room that will run its own track, a catered Friday night social, and a formal Saturday Night Speak Easy!" The hotel is a Marriott near near the airport. Facebook page.

● Loving More Oregon Retreat
Summer 2021, date to be determined
Vernonia, OR

This is the description for 2020 ,which was canceled due to Covid:

After a four-year hiatus, the Loving More summer retreat is back — now in Oregon instead of upstate New York. "This weekend-long retreat is an open-forum, highly interactive and participant-driven weekend of community, connection and opportunities to learn. You, the attendee, will co-create the agenda and schedule with fellow attendees and facilitators. We feel the best way to learn is to share with each other, so we offer a safe space for creative discourse, ideas and spontaneous workshops and playshops. The natural venue and smaller group allow an opportunity for deep connections." The site is about 30 miles north of Portland in view of Mount St. Helens.

On the dock at Polycamp Northeast

● Polycamp Northeast
August 12-15, 2021 
Eastern New Hampshire

The description for 2020, which was canceled due to Covid:

This 3½-day event began with a smashing success in August 2016 and has been running ever since. I attended three of the first four, and what a collection of loving hearts this has been each time. About 65 extraordinary people self-organize a variety of talks and fun activities: nonviolent communication techniques, general poly discussion, genderqueer topics, yoga, nightly campfire, board games, crafts, a kayak race, cuddle party, dance. The venue is a well-equipped old New England summer camp (all cabins have private baths) in the New Hampshire lakes region north of Boston. Waterfront with paddleboards, kayaks, canoes, water trampoline. Three meals a day included.

● Endless Poly Summer
August 2021, dates to be determined
Abrams Creek Retreat Center and Campground, Mt. Storm, WV

The description for 2020, which was canceled due to Covid:

This will be the seventh year for Endless Poly Summer, one of the seasonal poly retreats that Indigo Dawn, Dawson Driver, Michael Rios and friends produce at Abrams Creek based on Network for a New Culture principles and ideas. These aim to build, over five days, enduring intimate community. I've gone to many of their events and endorse them highly. New Culture's practices for community creation and interpersonal-skills development are remarkable and effective. 

From the website: “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.... Spend up to 5 days in a rustic woods-and-water setting, hang out around a bonfire, enjoy a song circle, cuddle up at a snuggle party, learn to take your relationships to the next level, and build connections with others that last all year long! We invite top-notch presenters, and live, work, learn and play together.” Conditions are rustic, many people camp in tents, but indoor accommodations are available. A lovely, and accurate, promo video (I'm in it). Another camper speaks.

● Polywood Camping 2020
August 2021, dates to be determined
near Eganville, Ontario

"A kid-friendly poly camping weekend, at Raven’s Knoll Campground. Join us at Polywood this year to laugh, learn, and community build under the stars. Meet fellow like-minded poly people around the large communal bonfire; take part in various relationship building and strengthening discussions; share your poly knowledge and experiences over wine and cheese." Swimming, showerhouse, food truck. Camper hookups available, dogs welcome.

● At Burning Man
August 29  September 6, 2021
Nevada desert

Village of PolyParadise
PolyParadise has been running at Burning Man for two decades. This is a large theme camp cluster, typically 350 x 440 feet, usually with about 300 campers, more than a third of them new each year in recent years. Workshops and events include Heart of Now, Poly High Tea, the famous Human Carcass Wash, the Hiney Hygiene Station, Mind Melt, Revolutionary Honesty, Mindful Hugging Meditation, and a poly mixer. Wrote Benevolent Dictator Scotto, "The Village of PolyParadise 2019 was absolutely incredible and our best effort yet at creating this amazing On-Playa home. Each year there are many challenges and together we find a way to make things right, together we build an amazing space within the gates of BRC, a place to really call home in the desert." Details.

● OpenCon Italia
September 2021?
Perugia, Italy

Now that the nonprofit running this event, Associazione per la promozione delle relazioni etiche non-monogame (RETI), has expelled its problem co-founder and banned him from all events after interviews with seven women and a series of other things, I finally feel okay listing the annual OpenCon Italia here. See RETI's statement, in Italian and English. They've also set up a formal code of conduct.

About OpenCon Italia: "OpenCon Italia è un evento della durata di un week-end, aperto a chiunque ritenga che le relazioni felici ed etiche non debbano essere necessariamente monogame. Nel corso dell’OpenCon potrete partecipare a workshop, gruppi di discussione e attività sociali che vi consentiranno di incontrarvi e confrontarvi con persone che la pensano come voi, di far crescere la nostra comunità e di celebrare le sue diversità."

● OpenCon Madrid
September 2021 (dates to be announced)
Madrid, Spain

"OpenCon Madrid es un evento abierto a todas aquellas personas que quieran descubrir que las relaciones felices y sinceras no han de ser necesariamente monógamas. ¿En qué consiste? Consiste en una combinación de debates, talleres y actividades lúdicas que te brindarán la oportunidad de conocer gente con tus mismas ideas y actitudes, compartir experiencias e inquietudes, ayudar a fortalecer nuestra comunidad y disfrutar de su diversidad. El contenido de la Opencon lo proporcionan las personas asistentes, por lo que cada convocatoria será diferente. Este año es la quinta vez que se celebra en Madrid." Each year the conference has sold out fast when registration opens.

● Fall Polytreffen (Germany)
September 21–26, 2021

The German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.deruns transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. The organizers say the gatherings are "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self organized by the participants." Minimum age 18. In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced. (Also see Poly-Kalender of local and regional German-speaking events.)

● Polyday 2020 (UK)
Date to be announced, 2021
London, UK

In its past few years Polyday has been drawing a total of 200-plus people. The 2018 Polyday got a nice writeup in Vice UK. From the website, "Come and meet hundreds of people that identify as non-monogamous at the largest event in Europe on polyamory, Relationship Anarchy and other forms of non-monogamy. New to polyamory or just curious? Experienced in all forms of non-monogamy? Something in between? Polyday has something for you! In previous years talks have covered designing relationships, sexual health, polyamory and mental health, polyamory and children, and BAME and non-monogamy. There will be opportunities to socialise, meet up after the event, and quiet space if you need a break." Facebook page. In past years Polyday has sold out in advance.

● New Culture Fall Camp 
October 2021; Dates to be set
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV

This is a smaller, more intimate version of New Culture Summer Camp held every July at the Abrams Creek Retreat Center in the mountains of West Virginia (see July here for description). These events draw about 70% polyfolks; the focus is on building practices of transparency, self-understanding, communication skills, and intimacy to create radically better relationships of any type. The aim to build, over several days, an enduring network of like-minded people who don't necessarily fall out of touch as happens after most events. "The point is building tribe," says organizer Michael Rios.

I've gone to the larger New Culture Summer Camp for the last eight years and can't recommend New Culture events highly enough. From the website: “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.... Spend up to 5 days in a rustic woods-and-water setting, hang out around a bonfire, enjoy a song circle, cuddle up at a snuggle party, learn to take your relationships to the next level, and build connections with others that last all year long!”

Explains Michael, "We are exploring the questions: What does it mean to be there for each other? What would it take to be solidly present in each others’ lives, responding flexibly and with love to the needs that emerge? What might we do right now to be there for each other? What role does commitment play? The deep truth is that each person is fundamentally alone. Yet at the same time, there is beauty and skillfulness in interdependence.... And beyond merely meeting needs, we can find delight in co-creation, and in the many ways we can support each other in greater joy. At this community journey, we will open these explorations in a field of love, curiosity, and compassion." Video. Also, a camper's video.

● Outside The Box: Pittsburgh Polyamory Conference
Fall 2021? (date to be announced?)
Pittsburgh, PA

Laszlo Productions, a Pittsburgh-based GLBTQIA events producer, put on this new one-day conference in 2019. Organizer Lyndsey Sickler posts "We had a great time! Looking forward to planning the 2020 conference!" But that didn't happen in the year of Covid. We await news for 2021.

From the 2019 announcement: "We are excited to be putting together Pittsburgh's First Poly Conference. Outside the Box will take place at Persad Center.... The conference is FREE (donations gladly accepted)." The Persad Center is an LGBTQ human services, activist, and community center. The program ran from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Here were the 2019 sessions.

● PolyDallas Millennium
Date to be decided, 2021
Dallas, TX, or possibly online

Organizer Ruby Johnson writes, "PDM is a symposium that brings queer, trans, and nonbinary POC who are nonmonogamous together to educate one another, celebrate our love, and liberate our voices in a space that is affirming, safe, and accessible."

Formerly held in a big Dallas hotel, PDM went online for November 2020 during Covid. From the description then: "We are bringing that same mission, vision, and passion to a virtual space November 6-8, 2020.
Our theme celebrates the abundance, liberation, and unlimited possibilities of love.

"When we are Open to Love, we are free to experience intimacy without the constraints of others'
prejudice, oppression, and opinions of who and how we love. Being Open to Love does not embolden us to a preconceived notion of an ideal “look and feel” of true love. We are no longer shackled to a one-size-fits-all expression and identity of love.

"This is a time of a global uprising. This is a time for transformational love."

Facebook page.  CEU credits were available for therapists and other professionals.

Tikva Wolf's plug for the 2020 online conference:

This was my description for the original live event:
This large hotel conference centers people of color and the black experience. "This does not exclude anyone else! We love bountifully," writes organizer Ruby Johnson. "Our symposium provides a sex-positive safe space for those seeking knowledge about ethical nonmonogamy, who have questions about ethical nonomogamy, or are experienced with ethical nonmongamy. We bring to the forefront people of color who are queer, trans, and nonbinary.  This is space for all lovestyles. We leave all that stops us from loving fully and freely at the front door."

● Beyond The Love

November 2021?

Columbus, Ohio

In 2019 this weekend conference, under new management, moved from its hotel to a smaller venue. In 2020 it was cancelled due to Covid. We await news for 2021.

Here were the 2019 presentersclasses and schedule. The new diversity and inclusiveness policy. The conference sold out at 250 attendees.

Here's Kitty Chambliss's writeup of her experiences at the 2018 BTL.

November 2021?
Date and location to be set.

PolyCon Canada 2020, a project of the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association (CPAA), was scheduled to gather in Edmonton until Covid hit. Instead it went online as a "24 hr livestream event from sundown Nov 22 to sundown Nov 23, 2020 (PST). Title: Honouring Intersectionality and Diversity in our Communities. Livestreamed hosting, interactive chat, and video segments. Broadcast will be available on YouTube and Twitch 24 hrs after the event." See the 2020 schedule and program updates including speakers.

We'll keep you updated on 2021 when we get word. 

● PolyamQ Conference on Non–Traditional Families & Intimacies
Date to be set, 2021
Calgary, Alberta?

The 2020 conference, to be the first, was cancelled due to Covid. But "We will return in 2021 and encourage all those who applied to be a part of the conference carry forward their invitation, should they wish to present next year."

From the original 2020 description: "PolyamQ is a group of scholars, artists, activists, and community members who have a particular interest in the teaching and study of non-monogamy, kinship, sexuality, gender diversity. PolyamQ aims to provide the opportunity to connect to broader research, artistic, and activist communities, and to mentor, support, and foster each other in and through our works. This year, PolyamQ’s Conference on Non-Traditional Families & Intimacies focuses on the concept of Narrative Power. This focus on Narrative Power aims to examine how everyday intimacies are shaped, influenced, and coerced by the storied actions of others. For example, presenters may wish to explore how stories about families, child-rearing, division of labour and care-work, living arrangements, or the differences in intimacies between ‘friends’ and ‘family’ are told. For any and all inquiries, please contact the conference organizer Pedrom Nasiri at pnasiri (at) ucalgary (dot) ca ".


To add an event (of wide geographic interest, please) email it to me at alan7388 {at} gmail.com.

Kimchi Cuddles is based the cartoonist's real life. See her followup strip. And yes, she, "Rajeev" and "Terra" all made it to the Beyond the Love polycon in Ohio that year.

and their get-togethers!

For socials, potlucks, discussions, support, etc. near you, find and join your local poly group(s). You can:

● Try googling polyamory with your state and/or city

● Check Meetup.com with keyword polyamory and enter your zip code or city.

● Search Facebook Groups for polyamory with your state and/or city, and for poly with your state and/or city.

● If you're on Fetlife (NSFW landing page and content; TW: BDSM), you can search its groups for polyamory with your state and/or city, and for poly with your state and/or city.

● Check these lists:

   – Directory of Local Poly Groups maintained on Facebook. It's editable! If yours isn't here yet, add it.

   – Tristan Taormino's big list (needs updating), on the website of her book Opening Up. (Send additions, corrections, and changes to raymond (at) puckerup.com )

   – Canadian Polyamory Groups, courtesy of the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association.

   – Local Poly Group Registry, currently kept alive by Michael Rios at polyinfo.org. This once-grand list seriously needs updating. Email additions, corrections, and changes to groups (at) polyinfo.org. If you'd like to do the updating and make this project yours, please write to that address.


Can't find a local group near you? Maybe that's the universe saying you should start it! This is what Meetup.com was made for.

– Here's organizer Kitty Chambliss's Polyamory Guide to Community Building. "So perhaps you’d like to start a community from scratch in your local area. I’m going to give you a roadmap for success to do just that!"

– And here are Joreth's many thoughts on the kinds of poly community events that might work in your area. She's been an organizer for a long time and has pretty much done it all.

– Simple, exact details of how to run a good, no-frills poly gathering: How I run poly picnic discussions, by Andrea Green. 

– Prefer audio? From the Polyamory Weekly podcast: Episode #365, Building your poly community with meetups; and Episode #464, Building Your Poly Community as it grows.



  1. All the events are great.... your calendar is full of magic... :)

  2. Interesting concept. I have a non geek friend who refers to my triad as "what happens when you marginalize people and leave them alone to long."
    I just laugh.

  3. Can you publish this as a Google Calendar? It's so much easier to add the calendar and view the events in the context of the rest of my life's schedule. We have a very full Google Calendar feed in the Bay Area that hundreds subscribe to.