Upcoming Events

2014 – 15

At Burning Man
Aug. 25 – Sept. 1, 2014
Nevada desert
(Note: You cannot get into Burning Man without a ticket that's legitimate by Burning Man's anti-scalper rules. Beware of ticket scams.

Poly Paradise theme camp.
Poly Paradise will be in its 16th year in 2014. Since 2012 it has been awarded prime central locations on the A or B rings; in 2014 it will be on the B ring at azimuth 4:15. This is a large theme camp; in 2012 it was 200 x 600 feet and had 170 campers. In 2013 it had 183, almost half of them new. Workshops and events will include Heart of Now, Poly High Tea, the famous Human Carcass Wash, the Hiney Hygiene Station, Mind Melt, Revolutionary Honesty, and a poly mixer. Benevolent Dictator Scotto writes, "PolyParadise 2013 was the truly the best Theme Camp iteration we have ever created. Each year there are many challenges and together we overcome, together we build an amazing space within the gates of BRC, a place to really call home in the desert."

Polycamp Northwest
Aug. 29 – Sept. 1, 2014
Olympia, WA area

This big, multi-day, kid- and family-friendly campout is now in its 13th year, held in a reserved area of cabins and common buildings in a state park. Workshops, hikes, canoeing, singing, dance, games from Calvinball to frisbee golf. It has been getting 150 to 200 people. Adults-only workshops/discussions take place in their own separate area. Facebook page (which is more active than the website). See newspaper article about Polycamp by Dan Savage from 2010.

Organizer Quintus writes, "We also do three other events each year:
— Post Polycamp Party
— Room Party at Norwescon (sci-fi convention)
— Polystrip (fundraiser for Polycamp; burlesque by members of the poly community)

Loving More Retreat
September 5–7, 2014
Easton Mountain Retreat Center, north of Albany, NY

A smallish rural gathering of fellowship and workshops. Navigating poly life both for beginners and long-timers; building intimate community. Beautiful rural setting, hot tubbing, pool, fun, stars. Clothing optional (though not many go bare except around the hot tub, sauna, and pool). Intimate crowd, newbie-friendly, typical attendance 30 or so. Here's a FAQ. See last year's schedule. I've come to this since 2005. Loving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the oldest poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.

Großen Polytreffen, Autumn (Germany)
October 8–11, 2014
"Im Seminarhotel Gut Frohberg"

Since 2008 the German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.de, has organized local meetings and, in the spring and fall, "Grand Poly Meetings" that draw 50 to 120 people — "for contacts, networking, and planning the organization of activities. At the large meetings, up to 40 workshops, talks and other events are self-organized by participants." In 2013 the fall meeting sold out.

Poly Palooza
October 9–13, 2014 (Columbus Day weekend)
Desert Hot Springs, CA

This will be the second year for this event (under this name). It will be held at the same resort hotel in Desert Hot Springs as in 2013. Kamala Devi and other members of the San Diego poly/tantra community invite you to "a 4-day groundbreaking retreat where you will experience intimate connections with families that have vast experience successfully navigating complex polyamorous relationships. We are offering radical tools and transformative practices to access your full erotic expression within an immersive community where we dance, play, soak, study, work, eat, sleep and awaken together! You will develop deep friendships that will inspire and support you for a lifetime.

"Why? We are co-creating an experience of paradise to role-model revolutionary new expressions of unconditional love and sexual liberation. By exploring these paradigm shifts we intend to transform our own lives as well as the future of humanity."

OpenCon 2014
October 10–12, 2014
Dorset, U.K.

OpenCon in the U.K. is a participant-created convention on the
unconference model, which means the people who show up organize the content. This will be its fifth year. The first four sold out; attendance in 2012 was 87. "A 3-day event in the English countryside for everyone who knows that happy and honest relationships don't have to be monogamous. OpenCon combines discussions, workshops and socialising to give you a chance to meet like-minded people, to build our community and to celebrate its diversity."

The team putting it together in 2013 told us, "This year we're not running a gender balancing policy as they did last year, but our explicitly feminist ethos, and actions to increase accessibility of the event, (which you can read more about on dedicated Ethos and Access pages on the website) have resulted in our current attendees' gender profile being very well balanced."

Here are the self-generated schedule boards from 2011:
1, 2, 3, 4. This is how an unconference works. "We had 33 workshops run, only 5 of which had been arranged in advance."

Houston Poly Great Big Get Together
October 18, 2014
Houston, TX

Glimmer Blazeflower writes, "I wanted to let everyone know about the 2nd annual Houston Poly Great Big Get Together. It will be October 18, 2014 from 8:00am till ???. It will offer two tracks of discussion/workshops. All of the food will be provided with the top 8 allergies and vegan diets accommodated. The price is $10 for the day. You must be preregistered to attend. For more information or to preregister you can join either of the two meetup groups — Houston Polyamorists or Houston Poly Friends — or email glimmer.blazeflower (at) gmail.com. Our first year was amazing and we are sure this one will be even better."

Playground 2014
November 7–9, 2014
Toronto, Canada.

Entering its fourth year, poly and nonmonogamy author Samantha Fraser's Playground conference "will bring together the brightest minds in sexuality education, activism and media to examine the ways in which the sexual and erotic play a part in our everyday lives. Everyone is invited to attend from those looking to educate to those looking to get educated. And most importantly, for everyone looking to have FUN! Over the 3 days, workshops and presentations will touch on kink, non-monogamy, dating, sexual/relationship fulfillment and more. Playground is an all-inclusive event for every community to take part in and celebrate diversity."

Beyond the Love
November 7–9, 2014
Columbus, Ohio.

This new hotel conference had a very successful start in November 2013, with a reported 200 people attending. "Beyond The Love’s mission is to provide an opportunity for the polyamorous community to come together in an educational and social forum. At Beyond the Love you will find a wealth of classes, workshops and mini events to learn tools, techniques and communication skills to enhance our poly relationships. We provide a safe environment for meeting with other like-minded people in a supportive and inclusive community. We are passionate about recognizing poly as a relationship choice and sharing common experiences on our many different paths."

Here are some workshop presenters so far. I'll be there running a session called "Poly Awareness Activism: Strategies and Tactics." There will be other attendee-generated unconference sessions, poly matchmaking, a Midwest poly leadership summit, massage, yoga, and a masquerade ball. Over 18 only. Facebook page.


International Conference on the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy
February 13–l5, 2015
Berkeley, CA

Now in its third year (the fourth counting an earlier conference in Europe), this conference is organized by Dr. Dave Doleshal, longtime West Coast poly and sex-positive organizer. In 2014 it had five sessions, described by Dave as follows. The 2015 structure will probably be similar:

"The Friday-night session is geared for psychology/ social workers/ therapist types (but anyone is welcome to attend). On Saturday are the main academic sessions, the core of the event; most of these presentations will be standard types of psychological and sociological studies, but we are trying to attract presentations from a wide variety of disciplines. Also, we are having a session this year for Literature/ Folklore/ Mythology/ Media studies. And like last year, we are also having a "Public Education" session for presentations geared to the general population. Lastly, the political discussion and sessions related to polyactivism are all happening on Sunday; the Political session is being run as a distinct event through a separate website."

For more information or to request a presentation slot, write to dr_dave_doleshal (AT) yahoo.com.

Poly Living East (Philadelphia)
February 20–22, 2015
Philadelphia, PA

Poly Living is put on each year by the Loving More nonprofit group, in an excellent large hotel near the Philadelphia airport and a train stop. This will be Poly Living's 10th year (the 8th under Loving More's management). For the last two years (2013, 2014), Poly Living East has drawn about 200 people. Here was the 2014 workshop list, to give you a sense of what goes on. Here's an outside reporter's long article at Nerve.com about the 2014 conference.

my writeup of the first Poly Living I attended (2006). In 2012 I gave the keynote speech. I'll be back again this time. Hope to meet you there!

Loving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the original poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.

Poly Big Fun
Spring 2015, date to be decided
Bastrop State Park, Bastrop, TX

Glimmer Blazeflower writes, "Poly Big Fun is hosted every year by the Austin Poly group. It is the absolute cheapest weekend retreat you kind find anywhere. The weekend includes all meals and a place to sleep for $75 or less [as of 2014] depending on when you register. It is an amazing event that usually has between 80 and 120 people attend every year."

From the website: "Poly Big Fun, or PBF, is a time for us to come together as a community and celebrate. We hold multiple workshops on various relationship-building topics such as effective communication, time management and relationships, multifamily households, community parenting, and more."

Rocky Mountain Poly Living (Denver)
Spring 2015; date to be decided
Ramada Plaza Denver North, Northglenn, CO

This will be Rocky Mountain Poly Living's second year, after drawing 148 people its first time out in 2014. It's run by Loving More, which also does Poly Living East in Philadelphia every February.

OpenCon Catalonia
Date to be decided.
Gallinera, Catalonia, Spain.

2015 will be OpenCon Catalonia's fourth year. It's modeled on the U.K. OpenCon with a self-generated "unconference" program. "A weekend-long international event in the Catalan countryside, open to anyone who knows that happy and honest relationships don’t have to be monogamous. Discussions, workshops and socialising to give you a chance to meet like-minded people, to build our community, and to celebrate its diversity." In 2012, 2013, and 2014 there were about 40 people, a full house; here's more on what happened. The working language is English.

Atlanta Poly Weekend 2015
June 5–7, 2015
Northern perimeter of Atlanta, GA

This growing hotel conference began in 2011. It's a full three-day weekend of talks and discussions on poly relationships and making them work, and whatever other topics people propose; comedy, dance, and games; community building and socializing. Here was the schedule for 2014. Kid-friendly; families encouraged: a "Kids Con" track runs all weekend (parents are asked to volunteer two hours per day per kid they bring). I came to the first APW in 2011, was back again for 2012 (see my big writeup) and gave the closing keynote talk in 2013. Total attendance was 113 people the first year, 151 the second, and about 200 in 2013 and 2014.

Großen Polytreffen, Early Summer (Germany)
Date and place to be announced.
Since 2008 the German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.de, has organized local meetings and, in the spring and fall, "Grand Poly Meetings" that draw 50 to 120 people — "for contacts, networking, and planning the organization of activities. At the large meetings, up to 40 workshops, talks and other events are self-organized by participants." Previous ones have sold out.

Poly All Ages Camp BC
Date to be announced
Goldstream Provincial Park Campgrounds, north of Victoria, BC

Formerly named PolyFamilyCampBC. This is a kid-friendly polycamp with programs for grownups too. "A weekend of camping and activities with people who share a common philosophy of abundant love, honest and open communications on beautiful Vancouver Island.... Children from [poly] homes gain a sense of community from attending events like this one where other children from similar homes are in attendance," Zoe Duff writes. "Activities and workshops for all ages are simultaneously held, and the facilities are comfortably supportive of a community atmosphere." Here's the website.

Network for a New Culture Summer Camp East
July 10–19, 2015
Abrams Creek Campground and Conference Center, Mount Storm, WV
I've attended this interesting, rich, ten-day event for five years now. Network for a New Culture explores building intimate sustainable community through practices of curiosity, transparency, self-exploration, and self-responsibility. The days are structured around ZEGG Forum, various self-improvement and human-potential presenters offering their stuff, and sharing life, work, and fun in the West Virginia mountain woods.

New Culture East is largely the work of the much-respected poly activists Sarah Taub and Michael Rios. “While not exclusively a poly event,” says Michael, “Summer Camp East is about 70% polyfolk, and 100% poly-friendly.”

Summer Camp East is one of the few New Agey type things that I find to be grounded in intellectual integrity. Here are my impressions from my first year. Here's a bit more from my fourth (last two paragraphs).

About 80 people attend. Vegetarian group meals; campsites in the woods (no vehicle hookups); bathhouse with sinks and hot showers. Some indoor accommodations are available onsite. Conditions are rustic, but a camp-owned motel is 3 miles away. Kids welcome; inquire about kids' program.

West Coast Polyamory Gathering
Dates to be announced
Los Gatos, CA

Organizer Dave Doleshal of Saturnia Regna wrote for 2014: "This summer’s California polyamory gathering happens in a lovely clothing-optional resort in Northern California called Lupin Lodge. The event is intended to be primarily educational, social, and experiential. It will focus on the exploration and deepening of skills such as clarification and expression of desires, jealousy management, expansion and deepening of intimacy and multi-partner relating. It will also address other practical concerns related to polyamory, such as vital communication skills and negotiation tools." Workshops are experiential rather than lecture-style. Lupin Lodge is a private naturist resort in rural surroundings. 2015 will be the third year for this event at this location.

Rocky Mountain Polyamory Family Campout
Dates to be announced
Aspen, CO

Robyn Trask of Loving More and her family hold this informal campout nearly every year. About the 2014 event: "This will be the 14th year. Join us for a weekend of hiking, playing, and just hanging out with other poly families from the Rocky Mountain Region. This is the one thing each year where the kids get to join in. My kids love the campouts as much if not more than I do. It is wonderful to enjoy the beauty of the Colorado Mountains and spend time with wonderful poly people."

To add an event (of wide geographic interest, please; not your local group's potluck) email it to me at alan7388 AT gmail.com.
You are also welcome to add comments below about events that you have attended.

Another Poly Events List

Poly Events All Over, which is set up as combined calendars. This includes local events, sorted by region. The site invites you to add your own group's calendar.

and their get-togethers!

For socials, potlucks, discussions, etc. near you, find and join your local poly group(s). You can:

● Try googling polyamory [your state or city].

Check Meetup.com with keyword polyamory; enter your zip code or city.

● Most important: look up your location in
Modern Poly's Local Group Registry, with interactive map. Zoom in on the map to resolve separate pins in a single city. This list is currently the most informative and the best maintained. If you're in a functioning local group that's not listed/ on the map, please add it!

Here are other poly group lists, but they may not be as well maintained:

Tristan Taormino's big list, on the website of her book Opening Up. (Send additions, corrections, and changes to raymond -at- puckerup -dot- com )

PolyMatchMaker's list. (Send additions, corrections, and changes to www.polymatchmaker.com/main.mvc?Screen=TICKET.)

Expansive Loving list. (Requires Yahoo Groups sign-in. Send additions, corrections, and changes to tara.shaktima -at- gmail -dot- com )

Can't find a local group near you? Maybe that's the universe saying you should start it! Here's an article suggesting how, by Serolynne (written before Meetup.com became as big as it is now).

And here is Tara Shakti-Ma's story of how she started a thriving local poly group in the middle of nowhere, now with about 25 regulars. (Among other things she put this notice in the free events listing of the regional newspaper; feel free to copy and re-use.)

And here are Joreth's many thoughts on the various kinds of poly community events that might work in your area. She's been an organizer for a long time and has pretty much done it all.

Prefer audio? From the Polyamory Weekly podcast: Episode #181, How to attend or organize your first poly munch, and the more recent Episode #365, Building your poly community with meetups.


  1. Here's some more about Loving More's annual September retreat in upstate New York.

    People have asked me what these conferences are actually like. I've been sending this around lately as an unabashed plug:


    The venue is the Easton Mountain Resort, a spiritual retreat center by a pond in the wilderness. The days are mostly structured around workshops/ talks/ discussions/ on topics regarding relationships, polyamory, and good communication skills. And usually some tantric energy stuff, though I tend to skip that part.

    People are just incredibly warm and friendly and you fit in before you know it. The whole thing is at great pains to respect people's personal boundaries -- this is a very safe environment, no pressure sexual or otherwise. This is not a sex event, though someone may organize an edgier session or two in the Temple for those who want.

    It's a relatively small crowd, a few dozen. Food is excellent, accommodations are motel-like but sometimes several to a room (private rooms are extra). You get a discount if you bring a tent and camp, for which there's a good big lawn. Sauna, hot tub, swimming pool, hiking trails.

    It's clothing-optional; this tends to be the norm around the pool/ hot tub/ sauna, though not many go bare most other places. It is a fun, safe place to explore a bit of nudism among friendly people if you're so inclined. (My very first time there, I walked back to the lodge from the sauna in the nude late at night and, because I didn't know the layout well yet, I found myself hunting all through the building for where I'd left my clothes. Through the dining room, into a discussion group, past some people playing music, most of the people strangers to me -- and suddenly I realized I was living everyone's recurring nightmare of being lost in public with no clothes on! But it wasn't a bit unsettling -- just happy and sweet. So, ghost exorcised. I would never have to have that nightmare again.)

  2. Thanks for updating us for the upcoming events

  3. Hi,
    There is a calendar of UK-based Poly events that I keep up as best as I'm told with links to the iCal and Google links at http://topbit.livejournal.com/tag/calendar It's also available (embedded) on the http://polytical.org/events/calendar/ page