Upcoming Events

2014 – 15

Rocky Mountain Poly Living (Denver)
April 25–27, 2014
Ramada Plaza Denver North, Northglenn, CO

Based on the growth of Poly Living East in the last few years, Loving More is starting a Poly Living West in its directors' home state of Colorado. Keynote speaker: Dossie Easton of The Ethical Slut. More presenters. Further details at website.

OpenCon Catalonia
May 2–4, 2014
Gallinera, Catalonia, Spain.

2014 will be OpenCon Catalonia's third year. It's modeled on the U.K. OpenCon with a self-generated "unconference" program. "A weekend-long international event in the Catalan countryside, open to anyone who knows that happy and honest relationships don’t have to be monogamous. Discussions, workshops and socialising to give you a chance to meet like-minded people, to build our community, and to celebrate its diversity." In 2012 and 2013 there were about 40 people, a full house; here's more on what happened those years. The working language is English.

Atlanta Poly Weekend
June 6–8, 2014
Northern perimeter of Atlanta, GA

This growing hotel conference began in 2011. It's a full 3-day weekend of talks and discussions on poly relationships and making them work, and whatever other topics people propose; comedy, dance, and games; community building and socializing. Kid-friendly; families encouraged: a "Kids Con" track runs all weekend (parents are asked to volunteer two hours per day per kid they bring).

I came to the first APW in 2011, was back again for 2012 (see my big writeup) and gave the closing keynote talk in 2013. Total attendance was 113 people the first year, 151 the second, and 200+ the third. Here's another attendee's impressions of APW; see his five March 2013 posts.

Gro├čen Polytreffen (Germany)
June 18–22, 2014
Location to be set

Since 2008 the German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.de, has organized local meetings and, in the spring and fall, "Grand Poly Meetings" that draw 50 to 120 people — "for contacts, networking, and planning the organization of activities. At the large meetings, up to 40 workshops, talks and other events are self-organized by participants." The fall 2013 meeting (at a vacation spot in Truckenthal) sold out.

Poly All Ages Camp BC
June 27–29, 2014
Goldstream Provincial Park Campgrounds, north of Victoria, BC

Formerly named PolyFamilyCampBC. This is a kid-friendly polycamp with programs for grownups too. "A weekend of camping and activities with people who share a common philosophy of abundant love, honest and open communications on beautiful Vancouver Island.... Children from [poly] homes gain a sense of community from attending events like this one where other children from similar homes are in attendance," Zoe Duff writes. "Activities and workshops for all ages are simultaneously held, and the facilities are comfortably supportive of a community atmosphere." Registration. Here's the 2013 website.

Network for a New Culture Summer Camp East
July 11–20, 2014
Mount Storm, WV.
I've attended this interesting, rich, ten-day event for four years now. Network for a New Culture explores building intimate sustainable community through practices of curiosity, transparency, self-exploration, and self-responsibility. The days are structured around ZEGG Forum, various self-improvement and human-potential presenters offering their stuff, and sharing life, work, and fun in the West Virginia mountain woods.

New Culture East is largely the work of the much-respected poly activists Sarah Taub and Michael Rios. “While not exclusively a poly event,” says Michael, “Summer Camp East is about 70% polyfolk, and 100% poly-friendly.”

Summer Camp East is one of the few New Agey type things that I find to be grounded in intellectual integrity. Here are my impressions from my first year. Here's a bit more from my fourth (last two paragraphs).

About 60 to 80 people attend. Vegetarian group meals; campsites in the woods (no vehicle hookups); bathhouse with sinks and hot showers. Some indoor accommodations are available onsite. Conditions are rustic. A camp-owned motel is 3 miles away. Kids welcome; inquire about kids' program and restrictions.

Saturnia Regna (formerly Harbin) Polyamory Gathering
Summer 2014; dates and place to be decided
Interesting changes happened last year to this annual event. For years a gathering was put on at Harbin Hot Springs by Sasha and Janet Kira Lessin, the “World Polyamory Association,” who have a New Age bent big on astral travel, UFOs, channeling from ascended masters, and so forth. Their audio account of the 2012 conference announced: "Janet and Sasha share how the elite--modern representatives of ETs from the planet Nibiru and the Muslim, Jewish and Christian religious hierarchies the ETs spawned keep us pitted against each other as they exploit us all.... Janet warns of immanent preplanned attack, like the ones the elite engineered at Pearl Harbor and the Twin Towers...."

The 2013 announcement broke from all this. California organizer Dave Doleshal of Saturnia Regna produced the event at a new location in Los Gatos, California, and in his call for presenters he wrote: "Please note that this is specifically a POLYAMORY event, and we want only presentations specifically relevant to Polyamory, open relationships, polyfidelity, and other types of consensual nonmonogamy.... (This group is NOT interested in hearing from religious cults, spirits of "channeled beings," divine revelations from on high, extra-terrestrials, prima donas, or self-proclaimed gurus of any type)." Also: "Participation in all activities is strictly on a voluntary basis only!"

Immediately following the gathering was a small Polyamorous Political Summit. Doleshal has also been organizing the International Academic Polyamory Conference held in February in Berkeley.

Clothing optional. Adults only. For information write to dr_dave_doleshal (at) yahoo.com.

Rocky Mountain/ Colorado Poly Family Campout
Summer 2014; dates to be decided
Loveland, CO

An informal annual gathering at the ranch of Loving More leaders Robyn Trask and Jesus V. Garcia. "Join us for a weekend of hiking, playing, and just hanging out with other polyamory families from the Rocky Mountain Region. We will be hosting on our private 11-acre ranch, close to town and convenient for everyone. Charges will cover firewood, improvements and porta-potties for the weekend. If you are interested in having registration fees waived, fully or partially, you can come help us do some work to prepare."

Polycamp Northwest
Aug. 29 – Sept. 1, 2014
Olympia, WA area

This is a big, multi-day, kid- and family-friendly campout, now in its 11th year, with workshops, hikes, canoeing, singing, dance, games from Calvinball to frisbee golf. Adults-only workshops/discussions take place in their own separate area. Facebook page. In 2010 Polycamp NW had 190 people; in 2011 it had 196. See newspaper article about Polycamp by Dan Savage from 2010. Here is Anita Wagner's writeup of her experience in 2011.

Organizer Quintus writes, "We also do 3 other events each year:
— Post Polycamp Party
— Room Party at Norwescon (sci-fi convention)
— Polystrip (fundraiser for Polycamp; burlesque by members of the poly community)

At Burning Man:
Aug. 25 – Sept. 1, 2014
Nevada desert
(Note: You cannot get into Burning Man without a ticket that's legitimate by Burning Man's anti-scalper rules. Beware of ticket scams.

Poly Paradise theme camp.
Poly Paradise will be in its 16th year in 2014. In 2012 and 2013 it was awarded prime central locations on the A ring and B ring. This is a large theme camp; in 2012 it ended up 200 x 600 feet and had 170 campers. In 2013 there were 183, almost half of them new. Workshops and events routinely include Heart of Now, Poly High Tea, the famous Human Carcass Wash, the Hiney Hygiene Station, Mind Melt, and Revolutionary Honesty. Benevolent Dictator Scotto writes, "PolyParadise 2013 was the truly the best Theme Camp iteration we have ever created, each year there are many challenges and together we overcome, together we build an amazing space within the gates of BRC, a place to really call home in the desert."

Poly Asylum theme camp.
Poly Asylum did not happen at Burning Man in 2013; Pepper Mint wrote, "We've decided to take a year off." No word yet on 2014.

Loving More Retreat
Late summer 2014
Easton Mountain Retreat Center, north of Albany, NY.

A smallish rural gathering with fellowship and workshops. Navigating poly life both for beginners and long-timers; building intimate community. Beautiful rural setting, hot tubbing, pool, fun, stars. Clothing optional (though not many go bare except around the hot tub, sauna, and pool). A relatively small, intimate crowd, typical attendance 30 – 40, newbie-friendly. Here's a FAQ. See last year's schedule. I've been coming to this since 2005.

Loving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the oldest poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the movement going.

Poly Palooza
October 9–13, 2014 (Columbus Day weekend)
Desert Hot Springs, CA

This will be the second year for this event (under this name). It will be held at the same resort hotel in Desert Hot Springs as in 2013. Kamala Devi and other members of the San Diego poly/tantra community invite you to "a 4-day groundbreaking retreat where you will experience intimate connections with families that have vast experience successfully navigating complex polyamorous relationships. We are offering radical tools and transformative practices to access your full erotic expression within an immersive community where we dance, play, soak, study, work, eat, sleep and awaken together! You will develop deep friendships that will inspire and support you for a lifetime.

"Why? We are co-creating an experience of paradise to role-model revolutionary new expressions of unconditional love and sexual liberation. By exploring these paradigm shifts we intend to transform our own lives as well as the future of humanity."

OpenCon 2014
Oct. 10–12, 2014
Dorset, UK

OpenCon in the UK is a participant-created convention on the unconference model, which means the people who show up organize the content. This will be its fifth year. The first four sold out; attendance in 2012 was 87. "A 3-day event in the English countryside for everyone who knows that happy and honest relationships don't have to be monogamous. OpenCon combines discussions, workshops and socialising to give you a chance to meet like-minded people, to build our community and to celebrate its diversity."

The new team putting it together in 2013 told us, "This year we're not running a gender balancing policy as they did last year, but our explicitly feminist ethos, and actions to increase accessibility of the event, (which you can read more about on dedicated Ethos and Access pages on the website) have resulted in our current attendees' gender profile being very well balanced."

Here are the self-generated schedule boards from 2011:
1, 2, 3, 4. (This is how an unconference works.) In 2011 "we had 33 workshops run, only 5 of which had been arranged in advance."

Playground 2014
Nov. 7–9, 2014
Toronto, Canada.

Entering its fourth year, poly and nonmonogamy author Samantha Fraser's Playground conference "will bring together the brightest minds in sexuality education, activism and media to examine the ways in which the sexual and erotic play a part in our everyday lives. Everyone is invited to attend from those looking to educate to those looking to get educated. And most importantly, for everyone looking to have FUN! Over the 3 days, workshops and presentations will touch on kink, non-monogamy, dating, sexual/relationship fulfillment and more. Playground is an all-inclusive event for every community to take part in and celebrate diversity." Here's the 2013 speakers list.

Beyond the Love
Nov. 7–9, 2014
Columbus, Ohio.

This new hotel conference had a very successful start in November 2013, with a reported 200 people attending. "Beyond The Love’s mission is to provide an opportunity for the polyamorous community to come together in an educational and social forum. At Beyond the Love you will find a wealth of classes, workshops and mini events to learn tools, techniques and communication skills to enhance our poly relationships. We provide a safe environment for meeting with other like-minded people in a supportive and inclusive community. We are passionate about recognizing poly as a relationship choice and sharing common experiences on our many different paths."

Here were the speakers for 2013. The 2013 inaugural conference included attendee-generated unconference sessions and poly speed dating, and an organizing meeting for Midwest poly activists. It was over-18 only. Facebook page.


Poly Living East (Philadelphia)
February 2015, date to be decided
Philadelphia, PA

This is put on each year by the Loving More nonprofit group, in an excellent large hotel near the Philadelphia airport and a train stop. Here's the 2014 workshop list. The 2013 and 2014 Philadelphia Poly Livings had about 200 people all told.

my writeup of the first Poly Living I attended (2006). In 2012 I gave the keynote speech. I'll be back again this time. Hope to meet you there!

Loving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the original poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.

International Conference on the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy
February 2015, date to be decided.
Berkeley, CA

Now in its third year (the fourth counting an earlier conference in Europe), this conference is organized by Dr. Dave Doleshal, longtime West Coast poly and sex-positive organizer. In February 2014 it had five sessions. Dave explained beforehand: "The Friday-night session is geared for psychology/ social workers/ therapist types (but anyone is welcome to attend). On Saturday are the main academic sessions, the core of the event; most of these presentations will be standard types of psychological and sociological studies, but we are trying to attract presentations from a wide variety of disciplines. Also, we are having a session this year for Literature/ Folklore/ Mythology/ Media studies. And like last year, we are also having a "Public Education" session for presentations geared to the general population. Lastly, the political discussion and sessions related to polyactivism are all happening on Sunday; the Political session is being run as a distinct event through a separate website."

For more information or to request a presentation slot, write to dr_dave_doleshal (AT) yahoo.com.

Poly Big Fun
Spring 2015, date to be decided
Bastrop State Park, Bastrop, TX

Glimmer Blazeflower writes, "Poly Big Fun is hosted every year by the Austin Poly group. It is the absolute cheapest weekend retreat you kind find anywhere. The weekend includes all meals and a place to sleep for $75 or less [as of 2014] depending on when you register. It is an amazing event that usually has between 80 and 120 people attend every year."

From the website: "Poly Big Fun, or PBF, is a time for us to come together as a community and celebrate. We hold multiple workshops on various relationship-building topics such as effective communication, time management and relationships, multifamily households, community parenting, and more."

To add an event (of wide geographic interest, please; not your local group's potluck) email it to me at alan7388 AT gmail.com.
You are also welcome to add comments below about events that you have attended.

Another Poly Events List

Poly Events All Over, which is set up as combined calendars. This includes local events, sorted by region. The site invites you to add your own group's calendar.

and their get-togethers!

For socials, potlucks, discussions, etc. near you, find and join your local poly group(s). You can:

● Try googling polyamory [your state or city].

● Check Meetup.com, keyword polyamory; enter your zip code or city.

● Most important: look up your location in
Modern Poly's Local Group Registry, with interactive map. Zoom in on the map to resolve separate pins in a single city. This list is currently the most informative and the best maintained. If you're in a functioning local group that's not on the map, please add it!

Here are other poly group lists, but they may not be as well maintained:

Tristan Taormino's big list, on the website of her book Opening Up. (Send additions, corrections, and changes to raymond -at- puckerup -dot- com )

PolyMatchMaker's list. (Send additions, corrections, and changes to www.polymatchmaker.com/main.mvc?Screen=TICKET.)

Expansive Loving list. (Requires Yahoo Groups sign-in. Send additions, corrections, and changes to tara.shaktima -at- gmail -dot- com )

Can't find a local group near you? Maybe that's the universe saying you should start it! Here's an article suggesting how, by Serolynne (written before Meetup.com became as big as it is now).

And here is Tara Shakti-Ma's story of how she started a thriving local poly group in the middle of nowhere, now with about 25 regulars. (Among other things she put this notice in the free events listing of the regional newspaper; feel free to copy and re-use.)

And here are Joreth's many thoughts on the various kinds of poly community events that might work in your area. She's been an organizer for a long time and has pretty much done it all.

Prefer audio? From the Polyamory Weekly podcast: Episode #181, How to attend or organize your first poly munch, and the more recent Episode #365, Building your poly community with meetups.

1 comment:

  1. Here's some more about Loving More's annual September retreat in upstate New York.

    People have asked me what these conferences are actually like. I've been sending this around lately as an unabashed plug:


    The venue is the Easton Mountain Resort, a spiritual retreat center by a pond in the wilderness. The days are mostly structured around workshops/ talks/ discussions/ on topics regarding relationships, polyamory, and good communication skills. And usually some tantric energy stuff, though I tend to skip that part.

    People are just incredibly warm and friendly and you fit in before you know it. The whole thing is at great pains to respect people's personal boundaries -- this is a very safe environment, no pressure sexual or otherwise. This is not a sex event, though someone may organize an edgier session or two in the Temple for those who want.

    It's a relatively small crowd, a few dozen. Food is excellent, accommodations are motel-like but sometimes several to a room (private rooms are extra). You get a discount if you bring a tent and camp, for which there's a good big lawn. Sauna, hot tub, swimming pool, hiking trails.

    It's clothing-optional; this tends to be the norm around the pool/ hot tub/ sauna, though not many go bare most other places. It is a fun, safe place to explore a bit of nudism among friendly people if you're so inclined. (My very first time there, I walked back to the lodge from the sauna in the nude late at night and, because I didn't know the layout well yet, I found myself hunting all through the building for where I'd left my clothes. Through the dining room, into a discussion group, past some people playing music, most of the people strangers to me -- and suddenly I realized I was living everyone's recurring nightmare of being lost in public with no clothes on! But it wasn't a bit unsettling -- just happy and sweet. So, ghost exorcised. I would never have to have that nightmare again.)